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Brandon-J
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 Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 7:57 am Post subject: Moving on with life |
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| This year was the worst year of my life so far. After finding out I had aspergers I went into a difficult stretch of deep depression and Isolated myself from everybody even family. I've Tried marijuana to try to help my problems but in the long run it's just not the best choice. Now that im taking medication my goal is to just try to stay positive and have fun. I'm learning to not worry about what other people say and just do me. Im sure most of you are going through the same situation or have been through it. Alot of times I wonder how im actually going to survive when I get out on my own. |
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annie2
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| I'm glad you're sounding positive, even though it can be a struggle at times. All the best for successes in the future. Thanks for sharing your story. |
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tomamil
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it's strange that you went into depression after you found out you had asperger's. for most of us, as i've read here, it was a relief to know. finally you know there is an explanation and you don't have to feel to be a loser anymore.
but i, too, went through similar process of finding out how to stay positive. it took me two years of fighting off the depression i went to, i had to become a bit more careless to be more carefree and now when i feel just a bit sad, i just turn it off and go be happy again.
it's like with migraine, you need to stop it as soon as you feel the first signs, then it's too late and nothing helps, you just have to suffer it through.
btw, how do you people get marijuana? i would have no idea where to get it. not that i would be interested, i am not 
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Brandon-J
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 8:45 am Post subject: |
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| tomamil wrote: | | it's strange that you went into depression after you found out you had asperger's. for most of us, as i've read here, it was a relief to know. finally you know there is an explanation and you don't have to feel to be a loser anymore. |
It was really knowing the fact that I couldn't do anything about it to fix it. It explanied alot yes it did but it really drove me krazy thinking about it everyday and I began to feel sorry for myself and used it as a crutch to lean on for everything. I've learned that nobody is going to give you a pass and I have to still try to get better everyday even though I have it. And people will gain more respect for you act least trying.
| tomamil wrote: | | btw, how do you people get marijuana? i would have no idea where to get it. not that i would be interested, i am not |
All you got to do is ask around and people will help you out on finding some. Or alot of people have family members or relatives that smoke weed and thats how they start. |
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tomamil
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| Brandon-J wrote: | | I began to feel sorry for myself. |
i know this too well. and it was the biggest mistake of my life to feel sorry for myself. the stupidest thing one can do. never again, it's not worth it.
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intense
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One of the biggest steps forward in my life was to stop worrying what other people thought about me so much, it used to tare me apart but who are these people passing judgement on me they're NOBODY that's who.
Both my parents have terminal illnesses so life is tough and is set to get a lot tougher I don't know how I'll deal with it when it does get a lot worse, I'm not really dealing with it now I guess I just pretend it's not happening, I also diagnosed with asperger's this year at about the same time I learned about my parents so I am having a pretty terrible year myself.
Anyway I know how you feel and I am with you, lets hope for better times ahead.
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lionesss
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Anything harsh that happens can trigger us to go through the 5 stages of grief. It's good that you are now reaching the acceptance part and I wish you all the best 
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I was told that I have PDD-NOS and ADHD- in other words, mild AS with a history of speech delay. I personally think its best to say that I am just plain under the spectrum! |
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Josie
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Just know your not alone!! I am going through the same thing. I never have isolated myself from everyone like this even my fam and been this depressed since I found out/ figured it out.
It's quite scary. Plus my sister is getting married and moving out with my nephew and my other sister and my best girl Josie the dog moved away. It sucks!!!
Email if you ever need a friend to talk too. |
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Brandon-J
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| One way I that am keeping up my positive attitude is to exercise regularly. It helps out a whole lot by removing stress from your body and it keeps your mind off having aspergers. I still have to go out and find a job but I feel a whole lot more confident going out and actually doing it rather than than just isolating myself and thinking about suicide everyday. I don't care as much about what other people say or might be thinking about me. The way I see it is if they have a problem with me then DO something about it. I'm tired of running. |
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anna-banana
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| intense wrote: | One of the biggest steps forward in my life was to stop worrying what other people thought about me so much, it used to tare me apart but who are these people passing judgement on me they're NOBODY that's who.
Both my parents have terminal illnesses so life is tough and is set to get a lot tougher I don't know how I'll deal with it when it does get a lot worse, I'm not really dealing with it now I guess I just pretend it's not happening, I also diagnosed with asperger's this year at about the same time I learned about my parents so I am having a pretty terrible year myself.
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I really feel for you, that's a terrible situation to be in. when my dad got ill and the doctors gave him one year to live I got stuck in terrible denial. maybe it helped me deal with it in some way but now I see that because of that I was complately unsupportive and pretty much left my dad to deal with the disease alone. I've always been extremely cold on the outside and being unable to be a support for my dad when he needed me was really devastating and put me in depression for a long time.
hang in there. |
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tomamil
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| Brandon-J wrote: | | One way I that am keeping up my positive attitude is to exercise regularly. It helps out a whole lot by removing stress from your body and it keeps your mind off having aspergers. I still have to go out and find a job but I feel a whole lot more confident going out and actually doing it rather than than just isolating myself and thinking about suicide everyday. I don't care as much about what other people say or might be thinking about me. The way I see it is if they have a problem with me then DO something about it. I'm tired of running. |
we have a similar way of dealing with our aspietudes. i remember times when i was very passive, staying at home having nothing to do, i used to think too much about myself and got depressed and couldn't get rid of it. now i exercise regularly, i feel good about it, and once you feel good about something you are more open to think positively about other things too.
and of course, i don't care what others think of me. first of all we all have to live our own lives, so i don't care about theirs and i just stay focused on mine and i expect them not to care about my life too; just don't look if you don't like what you see and leave me alone, if you like it, you are welcome to be a part of it if i like you too.
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lionesss
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| tomamil wrote: | | Brandon-J wrote: | | One way I that am keeping up my positive attitude is to exercise regularly. It helps out a whole lot by removing stress from your body and it keeps your mind off having aspergers. I still have to go out and find a job but I feel a whole lot more confident going out and actually doing it rather than than just isolating myself and thinking about suicide everyday. I don't care as much about what other people say or might be thinking about me. The way I see it is if they have a problem with me then DO something about it. I'm tired of running. |
we have a similar way of dealing with our aspietudes. i remember times when i was very passive, staying at home having nothing to do, i used to think too much about myself and got depressed and couldn't get rid of it. now i exercise regularly, i feel good about it, and once you feel good about something you are more open to think positively about other things too.
and of course, i don't care what others think of me. first of all we all have to live our own lives, so i don't care about theirs and i just stay focused on mine and i expect them not to care about my life too; just don't look if you don't like what you see and leave me alone, if you like it, you are welcome to be a part of it if i like you too. |
Well I had to deal with similar sadness after finding out my son was under the spectrum, and I ate for comfort.. bad way to deal with things.. but once it was confirmed for me, I was actually relieved because it explained a lot. I just hope he doesn't have to deal with the kind of pain I had to, but thats wishful thinking considering the kind of world we live in.
And I used to care what people thought of me but I am getting better with that. Its our lives and we should live it the way we intend to. Why should we live our lives to please others?
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Brandon-J
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| I think the hardest step or hump to get over is accepting who you are and being the best person that you can be. Before it was I wish, I wish, I wish I didn't have aspergers & Why am I like this? Now it's like I what can I do to improve myself everyday. |
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