Big Sister/Big Brother program doesnt like Autistic Bigs!?!

Age1600 · Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 5:10 pm Post subject:

WARNING- LONG POST! sorry...

So as some know i was apart of big sister/big brothers program, my little is 13 and has pddnos.

Well i did the best that i could to my little drove her to chuck e cheese, took her out to eat, hung with her at my house, hung at her house, took her to the movies, stuff that is very hard for me to do i did for her to make her happy ya know. Well anyways the big sister/big brother program is in lakewood, I live 15-20mins away from lakewood, lakewood is known by me as not the safest area, a lot of low income, drug dealing, robberys and etc going on there, my mother used to lock the doors when we drove through there. Now jsut to remind everybody i have driven far places, dont always but if i have to, i will do so. I have driven even to another state over an hour away...

I never driven to lakewood though, not only because of the area, but because im very unfamiliar how to navigate, not good with the streets or anything, and since all the big sister/big brother events are in lakewood i ask my boyfriend to take me and my little. Well big sisters/big brothers didnt like that, so i sent them a copy of my boyfriends license via fax, well both times i was sending it to their main number not fax, so it wasnt going through, finally i had my boyfriend do it so it would work. Then they said they couldnt see the numbers so i told them ill get that taken care of. They said they can do something where they can make my boyfriend a Big, and have a couples match so he can drive to lakewood with her in the car without a problem, i said perfect ill do that. So the girl who told me that said to call her the next day, she'll be there all day, so i did, my boyfriend had off of work that day so i wanted him to maybe go in that day and get the interview, his fingerprints done, his license copied again, etc so he can become a big... i called and she wasnt there so i left a msg to call his cell phone, if not then mine, and if not then my line. No calls, nothing, so i thought she hasnt gotten back to me yet, ill give it a day or two, nothing! So things started getting hectic and my boyfriend had problems with his car, my mother went to europe for ten days, my boyfriend lost and got a new job, his grandpa went into the hospital cause of a heart attack, my mind was going bonkers! So what ends up happening is they call and say lets push up ur year annually meeting to see where we go from here with my match with my little. So i agreed, i asked her if shes going to kick me out, she said no, its just a meeting to see where we are.

Ok, so that day comes, and i show up, and they meaning two girls are there from big sisters/big brother goes "are u excited big sisters/big brothers is moving out" i was like huh? i thought this was just a meeting, not that ur kicking me out, they said "yea it is, but there is always that possibility you dont need us anymore". I was like whatever, so the meeting goes, my little says she loves being around me, and her mother said im an excellent role model, and big sisters/big brothers said that "due to my health reasons meaning since they never had an autistic big before and the fact that i cant drive meaning cant drive to lakewood yet because i cant navigate doesnt mean i cant learn, their kicking me out!"

Ok you have no idea how frustrated and angry i was, i asked them what about the match couple thing, which they never ever returned my phone call, no msgs on my boyfriends cell or mine or my line and they denied it saying they did...what happened there, the one lady goes "ohhh yea we couldnt do that" then i said its all because i cant drive to lakewood? i mean doesnt mean i can't i can learn, it jsut takes time. She goes "yea u agreed when u signed up u would be driving, not ur boyfriend." i agreed and said i could fix it though, and then she went on saying "due to my health reasons also". Now i've been going to drs galore to fix all my health problems, to try to help autism, my tourettes, etc, and told them that, they said we understood, but we still feel u shouldnt be my littles big anymore! Then they told my little you have other possibilities to have another big, and told me, u have possibilities to work in the school system so u dont have to drive and maybe itll be less stressful "due to ur health reasons" which means autism. They kept saying how "you made it this far, you should give yourself a pat on your back" I was like wait, i mean just because i have autism it is soo amazing that i made it this far, that im not capable of doing this more then a year? The one lady goes "with your serious health issues regarding autism, and the fact that your boyfriend drove to lakewood, not you, we can't take that risk anymore!"

Ugh i was soo about to loose it, first of all, they lied when they said about the couples match, idk maybe it was to make me feel better, then they lied and said they did return my phone call yet how mysteriously all my 3 phones had no msgs, and then they said this meeting was to talk about where to go instead they both knew way before that they were going to kick me out and lead me on. Then they kicked me out due to fact I have autism which means serious health issues, and the fact that i'm unable to drive to lakewood, which i still could learn, but they refused to let me. Then they say their give me an easier position in the school system so its "easier" for me considering my "serious health issues regarding autism" and told me i wouldnt have to worry ever again about driving. R u f*cking serious, i was soo angry, i drive to the harbor house, drive to childrens specialized hospital, to the homeless, to cattus island, i can drive without a problem i jsut need help to navigate if im too unfamiliar with the streets, i mean i could learn! And the fact that they kicked me out due to my autism! They kept telling me over and over they never even heard of a big whos autistic in the US especially, um so does that mean were not capable of becoming a big because u never heard of it, and because im the first one, dear gosh, wtf!

does anybody else think all of this is bull and that is bias almost? Is anybody agreed that is wrong?

P.S. I now know how it feels to be treated handicapped, and will never ever recommend big sisters/big brothers program ever again!
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