Brand new here needing help! I am desparate!

dughr · Emu Egg Joined: Sep 11, 2008 Posts: 2

HI,

I am new here as of today having just found this site. Here is my story:

I am a landlord who rented my house out to a man in his mid 50's, about 4 years ago. I was not sure about him and new he was odd in some way. I did all of my inquiring and in the end found he was recommended in that he is good at paying his rent and does not smoke-drink etc. Over the last 4 years we never knew what his condition was and he had told us he had been discharged from the marines for having schizophrenia. He had just inherited a large sum of money from the death of his parents and as far as we knew he was not being cared for by his surviving brothers at all. We watched him go from a fairly functioning adult, at least from what we saw, to a guy who would collect everything from straw wrappers to cig butts. He would store all of this in his kitchen and was not cleaning anything at all, just tons of trash piling up. He never even put his furniture in place. The movers dropped it off in a pile, couch up side down. 4 years passed and he never touched it, never even turning the couch over. He stayed in the kitchen sleeping on the floor collecting things.

Long ( and I do mean LONG) story short, we finally got the ball rolling to get him help and learned he had been bilked for almost $100,000 by scam artists. He always refused any help and we were helpless as his landlord to do anything against his will. I finally (!!!!!!) found out he is severely in the worst way AS. He is not a schizophrenic at all. He is so debilitated by AS that he can't cook, he eats only fast food, he can't clean at all, he has been in his little world for the last 4 years and has only gotten worse. Conversations with him are so trying that it is hard to get him to stay on the important topic, as you all know. We finally have him in contact with the veterans administration and some local help to get him on some assistance as he is now destitute. As a landlord I need to make ends meet too, but I am very fond of him and can not evict him as he would not have the resources to get help. I do now have some help from one of his brothers but since he is not local and my tenant is living next door to me, I want to do what I can to make things better for him and get him the aid he needs.

So I found this site. I would appreciate any help I can get to lead me to the places where I can find resources to guide him in. Again, he is severely severely AS, it is not mild at all. He barely survives and I am afraid is in declining health due to this situation.

Thank you for any and all help!!!

Doug

I should add, whereas he does love to talk to people, he scares them because he stutters so much and communicates in his own way. He tries to find work, but he goes in to interview wearing t-shits and pants that are unwashed. He shaves rarely and wears clothes until they turn dirt brown and eventually fall off from being so tattered. I could give him new clothes but he refuses to wear them until the current one wears out. So with all this he is unable to work at all.