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aeroz
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 Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:29 pm Post subject: Am I reading too much into this, or not enough? |
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Ok allow me to start from the begining. There is this girl I share two classes with, and we talked abit the other day. So today I was sitting down for my class and she took a seat next to me, we talked some more and when class was over I walked her home. She walked in and after hesitating, unsure if she meant for me to come inside, I followed her in. We talked, she offered and subsequently made me some food too. We continued talking about ourselves, and I certainly have a talent for making her laugh.
When all was said and done I walked her to her next class, and we decided to do it again monday.
Is this just typical guy/girl hanging out, or is there more to it? |
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jawbrodt
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It sounds promising to me. 
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:42 pm Post subject: Re: Am I reading too much into this, or not enough? |
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| aeroz wrote: | Ok allow me to start from the begining. There is this girl I share two classes with, and we talked abit the other day. So today I was sitting down for my class and she took a seat next to me, we talked some more and when class was over I walked her home. She walked in and after hesitating, unsure if she meant for me to come inside, I followed her in. We talked, she offered and subsequently made me some food too. We continued talking about ourselves, and I certainly have a talent for making her laugh.
When all was said and done I walked her to her next class, and we decided to do it again monday.
Is this just typical guy/girl hanging out, or is there more to it? |
Funnily enough the same thing happened to me in university. This girl cooked me dinner and I had absolutely no idea she fancied me, although I worked it out years later (even completely ignored some people telling me). I was probably so casual about it because I didn’t think of her in that way and didn't return the favour because I wasn’t good at reciprocating back then. She did stand outside my window for ten minutes watching me, which was a bit freaky I suppose. Only found out about because she said 'how come you just sat there on your bed staring at coins for ten minutes' 
I think potential is probably accurate, but i'm clueless. That fact that you agreed to do it again mean it is sort a date, I would say.
Problem is I never know when it is at 'date'. I don't think there is such a formal thing here in the UK, but you get what I mean. |
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patternist
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:50 pm Post subject: |
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As a girl, I say:
Go for it, go for it.... |
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aeroz
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 6:51 pm Post subject: |
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well she didn't really like make a meal, just heated me up some soup. As for the date part, well in the US you rarely ask the person out on a date, you ask them to do something and its assumed by both to be a date. Obviously as an aspie I have trouble with this.
I am so horrible at reading a situation. I just did my best not to think about anything naughty while at her place, and with the two of us alone, that wasn't easy. Of course I'd kick myself if I thought she was hoping I'd try something |
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| aeroz wrote: | well she didn't really like make a meal, just heated me up some soup. As for the date part, well in the US you rarely ask the person out on a date, you ask them to do something and its assumed by both to be a date. Obviously as an aspie I have trouble with this.
I am so horrible at reading a situation. I just did my best not to think about anything naughty while at her place, and with the two of us alone, that wasn't easy. Of course I'd kick myself if I thought she was hoping I'd try something |
Tell me about it.
Problem is at some point you have to make an assumption. I don't have formula, I am useless at it. Maybe you could offer to make a meal for her. Not something too fancy, but ameal. After all she heated up some soup. That is the reciprocal thing to do. |
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| patternist wrote: | As a girl, I say:
Go for it, go for it.... |
what do you mean by it? Do you mean IT  |
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patternist
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Ask her out on a date. It helps if: you have something really cool in mind. Is there an interest you share? Reptiles? Stamp collecting? Modern art? Indie music? Do research on this topic, find out when the next even which caters to this interest might be....
But it sounds like she genuinely likes you. Much different than, say, if you met at a bar or something. |
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| Isn't he already going to meet up at her place? |
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aeroz
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:01 pm Post subject: |
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| but how would I go about asking her on a date? more importantly, I'm horrible at dates, she I do some overt flirting like "good thing we go to class at the same time incase I stay over" |
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Fnord
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:02 pm Post subject: Re: Am I reading too much into this, or not enough? |
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| aeroz wrote: | | Is this just typical guy/girl hanging out, or is there more to it? |
Yes, and Yes.
As the man said, it looks promising! Try not to push it, but maintain interest.
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| aeroz wrote: | | but how would I go about asking her on a date? more importantly, I'm horrible at dates, she I do some overt flirting like "good thing we go to class at the same time incase I stay over" |
If you are horrible at dates, it probably best if avoid formality. I’m not good at dates either. Try not to stick your hand in your food like I did once
Though really if you could laugh off something like that, then you probably are enjoying yourself and not phased. |
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aeroz
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| at what point do I just take the chance, and make my move, like kiss her, touch her... this is way too complicated |
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| Then again patternist might have a point about making it obvious. |
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:12 pm Post subject: |
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| aeroz wrote: | | at what point do I just take the chance, and make my move, like kiss her, touch her... this is way too complicated |
No idea sorry. |
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