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Perambulator
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 Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 9:37 am Post subject: I've been betrayed |
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A middle aged couple promised me they'd teach me to cook curries for an agreed sum of a lesson for £20. They said they'd phone me back. They never did.
I contacted an organisation that's supposed to let socially isolated people play together in football teams that compete in a league. I contacted them once, and was told I'd be replied to in a week since the director was currently unavailable. 3 weeks later and still without a reply I sent them a second e-mail. I've never heard from them since the first reply.
I contacted a theatre about 2 weeks ago that's supposed to offer young people opportunities at drama. They're supposed to be particularly interested in helping disabled people. this I found out from my own sister who is partially deaf and partially blind and knows lots of disabled people. They haven't dignified me with a response!
I've bought a new piano from the piano shop where I get my piano lessons and they've failed to honour their promise to call me early in the morning to let me know in advance what time they're delivering it. For all I know they might not even do it today. I bought it on Friday and waiting for it is making me very friggin' out of sorts and angry. |
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UndercoverAlien
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 9:43 am Post subject: |
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wow lots of times you've been scam'd of the looks of that
why would they do that?
whas it all by the same person or something? |
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tomamil
What the #$*!?
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Location: currently Paris, France, but originally Asteroid B612
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 9:53 am Post subject: |
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it's difficult to be responsible. then you have to live and learn how live in world of irresponsible people.
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Triangular_Trees
What is right is sometimes found on the left.
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 10:25 am Post subject: Re: I've been betrayed |
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You do need to take some initiative on your own. While it is fairly common for people to say/offer things out of politeness they have no intention of doing, its also fairly common for offers toward others to completely slip peoples minds if its not something of particular importance to them. If someone says they'll call you back about an issue you want to talk about and its been a week, call them
Did you try calling the director of the league. One of the problems with email is that oftentimes your email gets automatically sent to the spambox. i had this happen when I sent bf's dad an email, even though my previous emails had all went to his inbox. We couldn't tell whether it was a change in his email service or mine that created the problem. If this was not an email he had been expecting and wanting to deal with immediately its possible I would never known he didn't get it. He had called me the next day about the fact I hadn't sent it and I was like "i did send it." then he checked his spam box and found it there
Again if its been a week, contact the theatre again. It could be a mis-placed note, someone not passing on a message, or just plain poor organization. Never give up on receiving contact after only having made one attempt
Did you call the piano place back after the morning had passed to see what the problem was and find out the delivery time? Thats what you should have done given the circumstances, and if you were particularly bothered by not knowing, you could have even called during the morning to find out the time. They might not have an answer for you, but even if they didn't they can usually give a rough estimate of when it will be, or how many things they have to do before they can get to you
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Perambulator
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Thanks for the replies. I just did what I really didn't want to do and called the music shop. The woman who answered went to ask someone in the shop, then came back and said it should be at my apartment within about an hour. I forgive them now.
But nevertheless what happened to me was wrong. I was assured I'd be called around 9 in the morning to be told of the delivery time. I asked for that because I like going out a lot and spending a day inside my apartment waiting for something and not knowing when it will arrive wastes a lot of my time and makes me crazy with anxiety and uncertainty.
I suppose it's true that keeping on hounding people is the only strategy that works. It's not fair though and it's not sensible. It means pushy people succeed and pushy people aren't always those best placed to do well. A lot of talented people are quiet and not willing to impose themselves a lot on others. Unless human beings change our ways and become more able to accomodate quiet people I think we will destroy ourselves. |
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Triangular_Trees
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Calling someone a second time isn't hounding someone. Hounding them would be like calling them everyday for 3 days or more. Its expected in life that for various reasons people will forget things and if those are things that you don't want forgotten, its expected that you'll act in a manner that shows you care about making sure those things aren't forgotten
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