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zeldapsychology
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 Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 6:54 pm Post subject: Would you socialize if you were able? |
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| I'd love to go to the movies with friends,out to eat,playing video games etc. that'd be cool but I have ZERO friends NONE NOTTA NOTHING! Is anyone else in the same boat? |
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Tim_Tex
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 6:56 pm Post subject: |
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I feel the same way.
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roygerdodger
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CRACK
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Even if I had friends, I would do so sparingly. There wouldn't be much to talk about. |
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zeldapsychology
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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I would want friends with multiple interests that I have and not just one for example someone into video games great only into lets says Call of Duty a franchise I don't like BOO!  (I had a friend like this would go on and on on certain franchises it board me to death LOL!) |
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TheMidnightJudge
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:59 pm Post subject: |
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| If I didn't want to be a recluse I'd make more effort socially. I have my friendships and I have a lot of musical instruments, so I'm happy where I am. |
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Fnord
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 8:15 pm Post subject: |
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The people who say that they are my friends have their own lives, which usually do not include me. I don't know why this is. But I have given up believing that there is something that I can do to make myself more popular. I've been the whole route: change my look, change my location, change my job (and make more money), change my church, change my car... it's all a waste of time. People either like you or they don't.
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Saffy
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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I have a question for those of you that are wanting to socialise, but don't. Have you tried asking someone out just to do something with you, or are you all waiting for someone else to make the first move?
" Hey would you like to go out for a coffee? "
" I'm going to a movie this evening, I'd love some company, feel like coming ? "
etc...
If you wait for others to send the first invite out you might be waiting a while. Particularly if a lot of your friends have AS tendencies as well .. they are all sitting at home wondering the same thing ..
If you are worried about long pauses in the conversation, think about topics of conversation in advance..
Normally meeting someone new asking them questions about themselves, listening to the answers they give and then commenting on what they have said is a good technique.
What do you like to do in your spare time ?
Oh I like to ride horses"
Really ? Where do you go riding ? How long have you been riding etc
Have you always lived around here ?
etc.... |
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zeldapsychology
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 10:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Saffy wrote: | I have a question for those of you that are wanting to socialise, but don't. Have you tried asking someone out just to do something with you, or are you all waiting for someone else to make the first move?
" Hey would you like to go out for a coffee? "
" I'm going to a movie this evening, I'd love some company, feel like coming ? "
etc...
If you wait for others to send the first invite out you might be waiting a while. Particularly if a lot of your friends have AS tendencies as well .. they are all sitting at home wondering the same thing ..
If you are worried about long pauses in the conversation, think about topics of conversation in advance..
Normally meeting someone new asking them questions about themselves, listening to the answers they give and then commenting on what they have said is a good technique.
What do you like to do in your spare time ?
Oh I like to ride horses"
Really ? Where do you go riding ? How long have you been riding etc
Have you always lived around here ?
These are very good conversation starters which is cool but I agree with another poster here IF I meet friends etc. they have there own life (children,husband etc.) plus I think my fault is not being able to drive. Sure it'd be custormary to lets say ask a guy Joe and he says pick you up etc. but usually the girls have boyfriends etc. and girls are the type of meet you there people not pick you up like a guy might. (I'm a woman but hey that's how I see it!!!!)
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Saffy
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| Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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You have your own life too ! Did you consider that maybe what you are interested in and like to do might also be interesting to someone else ( as long as you are not only focused on your own stuff during a conversation )
Also they might ENJOY a change of pace and some different company. I have 4 children and a husband and I just love it when someone asks me out on my own.. it gives me a break and makes me feel like my own person and not just being seen as part of a family unit. I went out for a coffee and lunch with a friend of mine the other day .. it was so nice just to spend an hour on my own, without my children and hubby ( much as I love them ).
Are places like the movies and cafe's close to your house ? or just organise to see people while you are going to be in a certain area at the same time. Bus's are good too
Sorry if I sound overly chirpy.. I am a firm believer in " if there is a will there is a way " |
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FieryGatoh
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I have a few friends, but to be honest half the time I feel like I have none anywhere. None of them have even HEARD of MGS or Halo, care about writing or reading and have any creative imagination what so ever!
If I had better social skills maybe I would be able to find people whom have an interest in what I do. But sadly, its pretty unlikely I'm going to find another female at my school who knows anything about either gaming or books.
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Saffy
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 5:45 am Post subject: |
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What about joining some Lan parties.. or better yet organising one ? You might be surprised who is keen
There are a lot of games that you can play in a team or group as well, what about putting a counterstrike team together ?
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FieryGatoh
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 5:48 am Post subject: |
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| Saffy wrote: | | What about joining some Lan parties.. or better yet organising one ? You might be surprised who is keen |
The idea of approaching strangers is just plain scary to me. Though I guess I should try it
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Saffy
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 5:52 am Post subject: |
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You could just stick a notice up on a noticeboard at school.. saying something like
Looking for others keen for some LAN parties, am happy to get some going , or looking for an active group etc.
Wanting to form counterstrike team, contact me at <insert email addy here - or phone )
It does not need to be anything fancy .. stick one in the library somewhere.. places where people will see them
If you are in a reasonable sized school you should get some interest |
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Mishi_Sings
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| CRACK wrote: | | Even if I had friends, I would do so sparingly. There wouldn't be much to talk about. |
You'd be surprised. My friends and I will talk about absolutely everything from school to politics to TV shows to all sorts of other stuff. Conversations between friends aren't like lectures. They meander so far away from the original subject that a conversation about, say, France could eventually turn into one about quantum physics.
| FieryGatoh wrote: | | If I had better social skills maybe I would be able to find people whom have an interest in what I do. But sadly, its pretty unlikely I'm going to find another female at my school who knows anything about either gaming or books. |
I'm sure there are other girls at your school who like to read and write. (I can't imagine an entire school full of people who think reading is hard and boring.)
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