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Fayed
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 Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: Talking to people in your head |
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Okay, so I zone out quite often. When I zone out, it is usually due to being bored or stressed. When I am zoned out i am usually talking to people in my head ( I know they aren't real, they're completely imaginary or loosely based on real people). Now i have very extensive dialogs with them, from debating something that's happening in my life, to bouncing ideas off them, to analyze things via them, to just talking with them, to playing out situations that i think may happen, to just playing out situations for fun. Basically I don't socialize much with people in the real world, but I socialize with the people in my head very well.
I was just curious as to if i am the only one who does this? Or am i just going loopy?
PS - Okay upon rereading, I want to clarify something. I know they people aren't real. I realize the way i describe it may make it seem like i see them as not being a part of me, but i know they are completely Fictitious and don't really exist. It was just easier to describe them this way. |
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zeichner
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 3:31 pm Post subject: |
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I have entire conversations with people in my head - but they are people I actually know & plan to talk with. The conversations are sort of "practice" for the real thing - but I do have rather extended debates with these people inside my head. 
It allows me to sort of blow off steam for when I actually can talk with them in real life. I picture their reactions to things I might otherwise just blurt out in a conversation.
I'm naturally a very visual thinker, but I've had many years to practice translating the pictures in my head into words. I think these conversations are part of the translation process - sort of the way you would use a spell checker in a word processor, except this is more of a "sense checker" - to see if the words make sense.
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Erminea
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Hi,
You described it perfectly, I'm exactly like that. I think it's an autistic trait.
I do the same thing and when I'm in love this goes into compulsary madness almost.
Or almost....
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waitingforthesun7
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I do this contantly.
i have been my whole life, but as i grew older, the characters have changed, and the ones ive had for about 3 years now, well their personalities have gotten extremely complex.
i do the same things as the topic starter "does with them".
i dont see a problem with it at all, yet, i have difficulty getting close to male companions due to my relationships in my head.
as long as one doesnt believe thier fantasies are real, i dont see how doing this is wrong/odd |
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Angnix
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 4:19 pm Post subject: |
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I have imaginary head friends too sometimes, occasionally I want to share my interests with someone so badly, I pretend that I am.
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DevonB
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 4:29 pm Post subject: |
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I've been doing that for as long as I can remember. As you said, I can have very involved conversations with people. I even try different responses on the part of the other person so that I have variations available to me to respond with.
I'm curious whether NT people do it. I mean, Iknow my mother (who I believe is NT) has remarked on it many years ago...but I'd be curious if my partner does it.....
Hmmmmmm...... |
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criss
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I think this is just a very autie way of refining our adaptive behavior......I do it often, and like someone else said, when in love, it escalates.
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hartzofspace
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 4:52 pm Post subject: |
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| zeichner wrote: | I have entire conversations with people in my head - but they are people I actually know & plan to talk with. The conversations are sort of "practice" for the real thing - but I do have rather extended debates with these people inside my head.
It allows me to sort of blow off steam for when I actually can talk with them in real life. I picture their reactions to things I might otherwise just blurt out in a conversation.
I'm naturally a very visual thinker, but I've had many years to practice translating the pictures in my head into words. I think these conversations are part of the translation process - sort of the way you would use a spell checker in a word processor, except this is more of a "sense checker" - to see if the words make sense. |
Wow, that's exactly what I do! I had to consciously stop doing that, when I started seeing a psychologist, in order to work on my Aspie issues. The more I let her see the "unedited" me, the greater my progress went. To the original OP, yes, all the time!
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Spokane_Girl
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I do this all the time. I thought I was the only one. I already knew that people talk to themselves thinking what they are going to say to someone.
I think my mother does this too because she used to talk to herself out loud all the time but learned to do it in her head because I thought she was going crazy.
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Kelsi
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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Willard
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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I do the rehearsal for a real conversation thing constantly, planning every possible response and reaction so i don't get blindsided. Then I usually end up not having the conversation at all, lest it lead to an ugly confrontation. Which causes frustrations to build up, which eventually leads to meltdown. I'm going through that process right now, as a matter of fact - day four of a never ending panic attack.
Anyway, the other thing, about talking to people in your head you know are not real. That's where great fiction comes from. Channel it.
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liloleme
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 6:18 pm Post subject: |
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| I also "practice" conversations in my head and I make up things that probably will never happen and have long dialog for that as well. I also have my fantasies in my head where I have many lengthy conversations with people who I have conjured and or made up. |
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Tahitiii
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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I talk to real people in my head. The only fictional part is that they would listen or
understand. If they could, I would talk to them in real life. I think I've always done this.
Trying to figure out why they don't understand -- which parts don't they get.
It's taken a new twist in the past few months. I'm so stressed out that talking
isn't good enough any more. When I'm alone in the car and no one is looking,
I actually scream at them.
| Willard wrote: | | Anyway, the other thing, about talking to people in your head you know are not real. That's where great fiction comes from. Channel it. |
I agree. Run with it and see where it leads. |
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anbuend
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 7:26 pm Post subject: |
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I used to make imaginary versions of my real friends in my head, and write letters to them. But it distances me from the real person, so I try not to do that.
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HistoricHomesDR
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| Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Angnix wrote: | | occasionally I want to share my interests with someone so badly, I pretend that I am. |
That's generally what I do too...along with the 'practice conversation' stuff. Even if I know I'll never have that particular conversation with the person I'm thinking about, I figure it will come up with someone sometime(or I will bring it up in perfect Aspie fashion), and when it does, I will be impeccably prepared |
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