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Manders
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 Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 4:58 pm Post subject: Forgetting Names |
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Does it bother you when people don't remember your name? I actually left a party last night because of this. I was acquainted with every single person there, I had no trouble remembering their names, but mine was a mystery.  It may sound silly, but situations like those have always bothered me a lot. They've been pretty common, too. Am I really that unremarkable?
Does it bother anyone else this much? |
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cyberscan
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Joined: Apr 17, 2008
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Location: Near Panama, City Florida
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| Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 5:21 pm Post subject: It May not Be Personal |
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I wish I could match names to faces. I'm severely autistic, and this is one of my weaknesses. As hard as I try, it takes a lot for me to remember names. Like Temple Grandin said in her book, it take an intese emotion to get the save button pressed.
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donkey
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| Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject: |
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bieng offended at not being remembered is a common adolescent thing, not necessarily AS.
when i was 18 i was the most important person everyone shopuld know. dont worry it will pass in about 3-4 years.
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spudnik
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| Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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I never remember names, or faces, which sucks because I am always getting people walking up to me and asking about
my ferrets and how I am doing, and I don't remember them, I feel so bad, but I can usually fake that I remember them.
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TheMidnightJudge
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| Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 7:12 pm Post subject: |
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| I never remember names, who am I to blame someone for forgetting my name. |
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ToadOfSteel
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Age: 20
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Location: New Jersey
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| Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:14 am Post subject: |
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I get cases of mistaken identity all the time (and all in the last year... all of a sudden i have a problem remembering faces)
One time I mistook a girl for a guy... spent the whole next day photoshopping their faces together to give my slip-up some justification, although in the end the guy didn't care, and the girl (who's a tiny bit tomboyish) found it amusing... |
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Avaricejx
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| Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 2:52 am Post subject: |
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Names never seem to register as important information when I hear them.. I'll literally forget someone's name five minutes after they've told me. This leads to some potentially embarrassing situations, particularly at work when I never bothered to learn the names of people I interact with every day. Can't really hold it against people then if they forget who I am.
I knew a girl once who had her name tattooed on her neck, you could always try that. |
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ryry85
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| Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 8:34 am Post subject: |
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| i can never remember names, it can be very embarrassing |
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poopylungstuffing
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deathchibi
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| Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 3:23 am Post subject: |
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i forgot my best friends name for a year and a half.
so i give people a name i can remember. 
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FieryGatoh
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| Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 3:41 am Post subject: |
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I can never remember peoples names. It is nearly the end of the year, I and I still don't know the names of all the people in my class. Names just don't seem to registered as important in my mind.
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Myles17
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| Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject: |
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| If you forget names just ask them how to pronounce them. That's what I do, although it doesn't help if their name is something simple like Kathy...lol.. you could just be like "oh i thought it was kathEEE" or I meant your last name. Yes it does offend me when people don't remember my name. I hardly ever walk up to people and introduce myself, and mostly every person I meet remembers my name. |
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Drakilor
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| Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 5:41 pm Post subject: |
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The solution is as obvious as it is elegant. You must threaten the recipient with violence if they refrain from referring to you as "Poop Smith".
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Mosse
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| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 8:16 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm usually able to recall someone's name, unless I haven't seen them in more than a year. |
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Rodent
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Location: Cincinnati
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| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Could anyone provide an effective strategy for asking people their names when you've met before? I have a really hard time matching names and faces, as well as just recognizing faces. So I always feel nervous when I see someone I should recognize, and they know my name and just start talking to me as if I should know them. And by the time I get my bearings they are acting too familiar with me for me to be able to ask them who they are. |
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