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poopylungstuffing
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 Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:42 pm Post subject: What social skills for you fail to sink in? |
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Sometimes..when I am in overlygregarious mode, i can be a tad tactless....after I received my formal diagnosis last evening...I was so excited, I wanted to celebrate like it was my birthday or something, and I wound up telling certain acquaintances who had no idea what I was talking about...or who reacted sorta oddly to my enthusiasm before it sunk in that i should not go around just blabbing about it to everyone.....I should have known better...but I forgot... 
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| Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:54 pm Post subject: Re: What social skills for you fail to sink in? |
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| poopylungstuffing wrote: | | Sometimes..when I am in overlygregarious mode, i can be a tad tactless....after I received my formal diagnosis last evening...I was so excited, I wanted to celebrate like it was my birthday or something, and I wound up telling certain acquaintances who had no idea what I was talking about...or who reacted sorta oddly to my enthusiasm before it sunk in that i should not go around just blabbing about it to everyone.....I should have known better...but I forgot... |
Congratulations on your diagnoses! Yes, I do that too sometimes. it's very hard for me.
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Postperson
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I'm too unguarded, give too much information and it's often info people can use against me, so i unwittingly put myself in a vulnerable position. Lack of guile, i guess you'd call it, i don't know that i'll ever overcome it.
I'm too trusting too - and in order to compensate for that, sometimes i'm oversuspicious! |
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| Postperson wrote: | I'm too unguarded, give too much information and it's often info people can use against me, so i unwittingly put myself in a vulnerable position. Lack of guile, i guess you'd call it, i don't know that i'll ever overcome it.
I'm too trusting too - and in order to compensate for that, sometimes i'm oversuspicious! |
OK, another set of traits I have. 8-( |
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orngjce223
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Nope, but I'm told I don't have common sense.
However, I don't see what about it is so "common".
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sinsboldly
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common sense. that is where people just sorta 'know' what others are doing and feeling and do and feel the same way, it is the 'common' sense. Like the five senses in sync with other folks five senses. And they groove on that, too, they like it alot.
yeah, guileless, we are so excited about being AS because we know the truth will set us free. It is a social death sentance for those that don't understand . . well if they DID understand it would sound like a death sentance for them.
It comforts me that not only are we weirder than they understand, we are weirder than they can understand. And I am just weird enough that that thought comforts me.
Merle
and oh, yeah! I always forget to say "how are you?" I never miss it if someone doesn't say it to me, but I am asked to say it to others (at work) as it makes them feel more normal around me. And you know we have to humor them and not let them feel uncomfortable.
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Unknown_Quantity
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I don't treat people who I have lost all respect for with any civility.
"Don't rock the boat" and "this is not the time or the place" never seemed to sink in with me. I don't get the whole keeping social interactions smoothed over when I'm in a conversation with someone I find morally offensive. If I don't like someone, by God do they know it.
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Being too blunt is a huge one. I often dont feel that I should lie and just pretend to just go along with things. I actually dont make much attempt to lessen the bluntness
Greetings, I know what to do, I have a problem with doing them. In fact a few of my friends got used to me just popping in on them and not saying anything and staring at them until they turn there head.
Bringing in random topics in a conversation. The problem is i'll think its relavent but to everyone else, its not. I just realized I did that a couple months ago. I get anywhere from strange reactions, slight annoyance or people that just go along with it. |
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poopylungstuffing
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| Unknown_Quantity wrote: | I don't treat people who I have lost all respect for with any civility.
"Don't rock the boat" and "this is not the time or the place" never seemed to sink in with me. I don't get the whole keeping social interactions smoothed over when I'm in a conversation with someone I find morally offensive. If I don't like someone, by God do they know it. |
I am the exact same way.
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Don't make waves
I don't think I know what that means. |
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countzarroff
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| I think I have the most trouble with anxiety and making good first impressions, especially around girls. I think ever since, I graduated High School, I've always been kind of a guys' guy. I am very loud and vulgar, I never concern myself as to what other people might think about me and I am not very chivalrous at all. But it's on my to-do-list of things to work on. |
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Danielismyname
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I tend to offend people with my words, even though I didn't mean to offend. I continue to offend people, so I'm guessing this means that something [or everything] isn't sinking in. I assume that it's my bluntness, pedantic manner and a lack of social niceties; there's only been a few [rare] people that I haven't offended.
I generally know when it's my turn to talk, and I have a million and two stock phrases in my head so that I appear to be decent at the social reciprocation thingy; these things I've learnt, but I just can't seem to change how I interact so that people don't take offense to me in social situations. |
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sinsboldly
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| Postperson wrote: | Don't make waves
I don't think I know what that means. |
"it is better to be safe than sorry"
I always thought they were giving me a choice in what I would rather do, and in their opinion they would take the safe way and I was free to make what choice I would chose.
I was in my 50's and one day realized it was a suggestion to take the safe option. Duh!
Merle
who was sorry far more often . . .
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Kelsi
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| poopylungstuffing wrote: | | Unknown_Quantity wrote: | I don't treat people who I have lost all respect for with any civility.
"Don't rock the boat" and "this is not the time or the place" never seemed to sink in with me. I don't get the whole keeping social interactions smoothed over when I'm in a conversation with someone I find morally offensive. If I don't like someone, by God do they know it. |
I am the exact same way. |
- me too! I am not prepared to compromise my own principles by being nice to 'morally offensive' people. |
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