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jmfoster
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 Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject: I've had enough of society, is isolation a bad idea? |
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I'm sick to the back teeth of feeling unaccepted by every group in society, I don't even feel welcomed in the 'gayworld' because I''m not a stereotype.
Plus after being bullied and being preyed on by ignorant people I find it hard to trust,
I'd still do volunray work and live my life colleg etc. but with nobody else in it, I know I would get lonely but it's better to just have one negative thing on my mind rather than stressed over alll kinds of things if that makes sence.
I'd rather that then feel anxious constantly and feeling rjected walking through town seeing all the teenaers laughing and in there grups etc. and these things have given me high stress and OCD, I have instrusive thoughts so now I think it's time for an ultimatum
Any feedback?
Thanks
Jake:)
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violet_yoshi
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Well you might end up looking like him. He's from the movie Oldboy, and was isolated for 5 years. I think he kind of looks like a Japanese version of the Muppet Animal. |
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jmfoster
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Thanks...
Not very helpful, and I said I would still go out and get on with my life but with nobody else in it...
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| Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:24 pm Post subject: Re: I've had enough of society, is isolation a bad idea? |
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| jmfoster wrote: | I'm sick to the back teeth of feeling unaccepted by every group in society, I don't even feel welcomed in the 'gayworld' because I''m not a stereotype.
Plus after being bullied and being preyed on by ignorant people I find it hard to trust,
I'd still do volunray work and live my life colleg etc. but with nobody else in it, I know I would get lonely but it's better to just have one negative thing on my mind rather than stressed over alll kinds of things if that makes sence.
I'd rather that then feel anxious constantly and feeling rjected walking through town seeing all the teenaers laughing and in there grups etc. and these things have given me high stress and OCD, I have instrusive thoughts so now I think it's time for an ultimatum
Any feedback?
Thanks
Jake:) |
Not all human beings are social, and that's ok. There is nothing wrong with living in isolation. |
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jmfoster
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KaliMa
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I've isolated myself to a large extent, and I've found I use the minimal contacts I have (such as my elderly father,with whom I live) to create drama in my life by blowing things out of proportion. I appear to need the excitement of having something going on, to be unable to just enjoy unending peace and quiet. You may find a heretofore unknown drama queen/king within you, too.
I am ashamed of this aspect of myself. It is substantially less than the self I had thought I was; unfortunately I can't pretend it doesn't exist.
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Capriccio
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| Posted: Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:46 pm Post subject: |
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| Initially it may sound like a good idea, and I'm sorry you face so much, though I'm hesitant about the idea of isolation. Are you sure there's no one around you that you can trust and talk to? |
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ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo
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| When people start driving me crazy I distance myself from them. I don't see the harm in it. It's better than flipping out. |
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Dhp
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| Isolation leads to depression which can be very dangerous. Take it from someone who has tried it. |
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jmfoster
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Thanks, I aleady have depression though but at least if I isolate myself it wouldn't be for reasons like unacceptance and low self-esteem, it would just for being lonely.
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millie
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this is actually quite a complex issue for me. I have such conflicting feelings arund it. I prefer my own company a great deal and require it as i might oxygen or water. I also need other people - but find it exhausting to try to socialise too much. some days are NO people days because of sensory issues. some days i need to make the effort because to isolate to the extreme can really leave me feeling bad. it is all fine tuning.
all i do know is i do not require nearly as much contact as other people do. and mypreference is for one on one exhchanges.
I also find hlidays really difficult becaues my son's father - who lives in the same house, and also my son - are home all the time. and it is really exhausting for me because of the demands in terms of social interation.I like being close to them, but i only want to talk when i feel like talking. otherwise, i find it very difficult. holidays equal headaches and too much social and sensory input. |
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Crocodile
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Maybe you could isolate yourself for a while...and than come back?
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mosez
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Hm.. Hard to say just how other people feel, but I have to isolate in periods. One day at work is enough socializing for me, being around people all day wears out my head. And I'm talking about real nice people who really likes me and care. If people drive you crazy, maybe it's better to isolate. But then again, I got to tell you that the year I was in the army, was the best in my life. I was in the artillery, and in order to operate the gun, we all had to cooperate, we worked real hard as a team in the field. We were very different as persons, but we was forced to stay together and work together. There was seldom any trouble even when we was on leave in the weekends and got real drunk. I have never before or after, had this feeling of belonging, being dependent on others, and they counted on me. I still miss those buddies. I remember the day we signed out, our captain actually shed a tear,and he was a real hard bastard.
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garyww
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If you like yourself isolation is great. if you don't it's not so good. To keep yourself company you have to be enjoyable and in ageneral a good companion for yourself and most people aren't.
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 1:10 pm Post subject: Re: I've had enough of society, is isolation a bad idea? |
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| jmfoster wrote: | | I've had enough of society, is isolation a bad idea? |
If you don't mind having a reputation as "That wierd guy that keeps to himself," then you're in the clear.
Isolation is not so bad, but you'd have to become self-reliant in nearly everything you do, from home and vehicle repairs, to medical and dental issues, to entertainment and sustanance.
Make sure you have a good lawyer on speed-dial, too. 'Cuz whenever a kid goes missing, a family dog dies suddenly, or property gets vandalised, the neighbors are going to voice their suspicions about "that wierd guy" to the police and press, and you'll soon have much more attention than you can possibly tolerate.
Good luck.
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