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NeantHumain
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 Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:22 pm Post subject: Questions for NTs |
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If you could ask a NeuroTypical some questions about NTness, what would they be?
Personally, I find NTs absolutely revolting, but I can at least imagine asking them questions. |
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GhostsInTheWallpaper
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:42 pm Post subject: |
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When I first clicked on this thread, I was all excited about the possibility of answering them...then I found no questions yet, and only an insult! Hmph!
I'd still be glad to answer any questions put forth, though, to the best of my ability. Trading notes with people with different kinds of inner experiences about what life is like on different neuro-psychological planets was one of the very things that drew me to this kind of place, even though my only knowledge of autism has been through (largely positive) reading material on the subject and one relatively new autistic friend. |
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BeeBee
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:46 pm Post subject: |
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I'm sorry you find me revolting, Neant.
Or is this yet another "joke" thread....
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Ladysmokeater
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:50 pm Post subject: |
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I have a question....
NT's, why are you more accepting of differences in other NTs than in Aspies?
OR Why do aspies intimidate you? |
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GhostsInTheWallpaper
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:04 pm Post subject: |
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| Ladysmokeater wrote: | I have a question....
NT's, why are you more accepting of differences in other NTs than in Aspies?
OR Why do aspies intimidate you? |
This may not apply to me as much as to some others, although I haven't known enough Aspies to decide for sure whether I'd find them off-putting or not.
But...Aspies may be seen as intimidating because NTs are often comforted by certain forms of mirroring/nonverbal communication and the polite withholding of information with negative emotional charge (e.g. "yes, that dress makes you look fat"), though the degree to which they are comforted by these things or off-put by the absence of them will depend on the individual. My mother's so easy to put off that my degree of bluntness and emotional distance bother her, and she found my Aspie friend hard to deal with as well. On the other hand, even if I do feel uncomfortable, I will often "own" this and try to deal with it myself, not blaming the other...and my Aspie friend seems pretty easy for me to communicate with. Insofar as Aspies have difficulty in providing mirroring, self-censoring, and white lies, they are likely to make a lot of NTs feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately and unfairly, a certain subtype of NT called the "sociopath" or "typical politician type" is able to take advantage of the comforting effects of mirroring and withholding negative information in order to step all over their fellow NTs, while genuinely concerned Aspies/Autties are pushed away.
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baby
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:06 pm Post subject: |
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i would have to echo the previous post and ask, why when you have stated that others should be more tolent/ accepting of the differences and traits of someone with AS you are so negative towards people who do not have AS.
I for one do feel insulted that you would postabout finding NT's revolting, and would have to ask you Why?
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baby
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:07 pm Post subject: |
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| ok obviously took too long posting that, but still most of it makes sense |
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baby
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Ladysmokeater wrote: | I have a question....
NT's, why are you more accepting of differences in other NTs than in Aspies?
OR Why do aspies intimidate you? |
i would like to think of myself as being a tolent person, i accept that other people are not going to be all the same.
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DrizzleMan
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:11 pm Post subject: |
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This being one of the few forums on the Internet with a tiny ratio of NTs, why would you want to ask NTs questions here?
- Drizzleman, NT. Better than 95, not as good as Linux.
(Seeing as it's on the Random Fun forum, I wouldn't take the insult too seriously.)
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CockneyRebel
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I'd ask NTs why the Quirks of people on the Spectrum make them feel uneasy.
I'd also ask them why they talk like Valley Girls and what they get out of doing that.
I'd ask the NT Males why their so hung up on Time and Effort.
I'd ask the Ignorant ones why they underestimate my Intelligence Level. If it's my Hair or my clothes. Than I'd ask when they were going to cut it out.
I'd ask the worthwhile NTs what they did to get hired at their Jobs, since I don't want to go to any more Help Agencies.
I'd ask an NT what they think when they see a group of Disabled People and their Caregivers walk past them.
I'd ask a decent Female NT what she did in order to get a Man interested in them.
I'd ask a Male NT what he looks for in a Woman. |
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animallover
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 3:42 pm Post subject: |
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I want to know what NTs get out of talking to each other and repeating obvious things over and over again . . .
I don't mean that to be insulting - I just don't understand it . . . when I talk to people I have something I specifically want to say and get their opinion on, usually - and that doesn't generally involve talking about their children or the weather (unless it is the meterological aspects of weather - that is faciniating) . . .
I've never understood talking to talk . . . hence my problem with therapy . . . |
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GhostsInTheWallpaper
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Talking about the weather:
I tend to just like it if I can hit a point of humor or understanding with someone else in this way, almost the same way I like eating, kind of instinctive and automatic. And sometimes I just plain like to express things. For instance, I will repeat my joke that there's no normal weather, only average weather, or mention something remotely interesting I noticed about the weather, e.g. thunder and lightning and a brief power outage during a recent snowstorm. For many, there may be a calming and bonding effect to small talk similar to that of nonverbal gestures and white lies/polite omissions, if it is not the occurrence of those things in the midst of small talk in itself that is more important than the actual talk and is creating the pleasurable effect. As long as the subject of small talk is not found to be too boring, the NT will likely enjoy it as a way to be engaged with others, to be in the flow of interpersonal interaction. That's how it is with me, anyway. There are some NTs who claim to hate small talk, possibly because they are rarely interested in the subjects and don't feel satisfied unless they can reach a deeper and/or longer rapport with people. To me, it doesn't matter if the talk is small or big, as long as I can come up with something to say on the subject and, preferably, the person responds, although speaking itself can be a release. |
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NeantHumain
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 5:33 pm Post subject: |
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| Ladysmokeater wrote: | I have a question....
NT's, why are you more accepting of differences in other NTs than in Aspies?
OR Why do aspies intimidate you? |
I like this question! I see NTs do pretty weird things (in my opinion) sometimes, and other NTs usually just accept that person anyway. When it comes to me, though, I think I'm acting pretty normally, and people frequently still find me weird and, more often than not not in the accepting kind of way. It's odd, this inconsistency. |
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fahreeq
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I'd want to know....
what the point of small talk is.
what it feels like to be energized by socializing and stimulation. (I'm only familiar with being drained by those things)
if and when they have ever felt overstimulated on a regular basis, or if they have ever had meltdowns. I just want to know how they'd describe it and how they feel about going through it. |
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Larval
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| Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 6:21 pm Post subject: Re: Questions for NTs |
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| NeantHumain wrote: | | Personally, I find NTs absolutely revolting. |
Like me? 
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