pseudo rejected

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You move on -- that's History, and you can't get them back. Sooner or later, you gotta figure out how to synchronize the two.

you are invulnerable to seduction? impressive!

There's this girl that works at the library that I've been bumping into a lot recently and have had a few good conversations with, etc. So, after talking with her for like a half hour today, I tell her that I'm kind of hungry and am going to the U to get something to eat and ask her if she wants to come along. The expression on her face kind of changes from all smilely/goofy to deer in the headlights as I ask her, and she says she can't come b/c she's got karate (which she actually does, 'cause my brother goes to the same karate place at her and they're training right now). I don't really know if I've been rejected or not, as I rarely ever ask girls out since it's almost always been the other way around. I just know that you can totally skip those sorts of things (karate practices, that is), and I figure that she would've if she were attracted to me. A lot of the signs of attraction were there (she almost always initiated the conversations, always smilely and crap for no reason around me, finding excuses to talk to me, etc). Perhaps I'm mistaking friendliness for attraction. Whatever, I'll probably never bump into her again since I'm graduating this weekend.

It's a good thing I didn't really know this girl or have a real crush \on her, because this would've destroyed my weekend. I figure I need to build up a strong tolerance to rejection if I'm going to find some chick, so this was a good learning experience on what not to do (I'm trying to figuring exactly what exactly this was in my situation, but I'm certain it's there).

I was used so much in high school because of women using sex to manipulate me... when I finally caught on, I delibrately (though unconsciously) burned out my ability to be attracted to looks alone, basically as a defense mechanism... The end result is that while I'm immune to seduction, my chances of finding a woman that mutual attraction exists between us is also pretty much nil, because by the time the attraction to personality kicks in, she's already deemed me a "lost cause" (because I'm not displaying any reaction to any advances she might be making)... On top of that, women who can grasp the idea of such happening immediately label me "damaged goods"... it' more of a curse than a gift...