Traditional relationships

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I prefer a traditional marriage: the man provides the money, the woman takes care of cooking/cleaning/children (if there are any). I think that this makes most people happy. Many (not all) of the problems discussed about on this L&D forum would, in my opinion, be solved with traditional relationships.

They would only be solved if both people wanted that sort of relationship. If either of them didn't, there's a problem.

It's more likely to work for NTs. Maybe not in this century.

I think it is the best way to have a relationship, it is so easy to grasp

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I can understand wanting partners to have different roles. "But now in this day and age" (I know cliche`) I don't think its really possible. Thier are plenty of reverse role (man stays home & woman works) & nontraditional situations (2 men, 2 women, single etc.) So, you're lucky if you have a partner, especially if they make enough money for you to stay home appreciate it! If things in society could be changed so one person worked/earned a living & the other took care of the household stuff (cooking, cleaning, any kids...) it might reduce stress levels many people have about getting everything in their lives taken care of. Plus day cares would probably go out of business. Traditional roles either need to be redefined as two people w/ one working & one taking care of things in the home or just get rid of the notion.

Traditional societal roles are the problem. Hell, "society" itself is really the problem. All of these "rules" are arbitrarily applied (depending on the era, locale, etc.), and are meant to keep the populace docile, under control, self-policing, and unquestioning - kind of like organized religion. Very destructive and extremely dangerous.

Tradition sure failed with my parents. I must say, their devorce during our adult years has felt like true bliss for all of us. They aren't even meanies, cept to each other maybe. My mother even said "I'll act civil.... :/.."

After reading the title, I thought the OP meant traditional as opposed to a friends-with benefits situation.

I think in many cases traditional relationships can end up being rather imprisoning. My parents were in it for most of thier lives, and honestly ended up damaging to them and each other, and especially me and my brother. The truth be told is traditional marriages don't really count for much these days is because they are not practical, and they are rather alienating. For one it is not very fulfilling being a housewife if that is all you have to look forward too.

Thank god these types of relationships don't have as much traction as they once did. It is now an option rather than being the only choice. I much prefer the option to choose, rather than being forced into a relationship I cannot live with.

Yet I find so many men like my brother in law who don't want to work or help out with the children.

Some guys think the universe should revolve around themselves. Anyway, I find many people to be hypocrites whenever one expresses views in where a gender's role should be assigned.

Maybe this is a good reason to remain single.