Do you want to have a deep connection with other people?

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I do, and sometimes I feel like I have a deep connection with others but there's really no way I can tell. I can't really express it, I feel like people know how much I care about them but I really don't know. I also feel like people can be connected to the energy I give off, I draw people in I guess, but they can't connect to ME...because there isn't a real me.

lol...does anyone know what I'm talking about?I'm really not certain if the person I actually AM is capable of making any human connections...I can only connect to people as someone that isn't really me...I've always been this way.

Yes, me too. I feel like even when I DO become close friends with someone I am still outside of them (if that makes any sense). I don't show proper affection for my friends but, if I like someone romantically, I come off way TOO strong. I drive people away cuz I can't keep my mouth shut.

Yeah, I get what you mean.

I think, sometimes, there can be a one way connection. It is a connection, and it runs deep for me, but not for the other person. Or, more confusing, sometimes it can be, not one way, but not fully reciprocated. Ugh.

Those connections (the two way ones, to whatever degree of two-way-ness), they do need to be nurtured. But knowing how to do that can be a challenge.

nah, I think I'd have made a good hermit

I think a deep connection could easily be used to take advantage of me. When I was a kid so called friends talked me into doing some pretty evil things for their amusement. I could only imagine what people would talk me into doing today.

No, not really. I don't trust 'em. I'll just end up caring more than he or she does and they will leave.

if i had a deep connection with someone, they would be electrocuted, and i would suffer a short circuit, and my power pack would be fried, and then i would have to spend weeks if not months in the cybernetics department while i was repaired.

I have felt very deep connections with other people.
That's the issue: I make deep connections when other people are expecting shallow talk.
It's all or nothing: I either care far too much or I don't "click"'with the other person at all. There is no middle ground.

People have commented on this.
People have said that I'm a brilliant friend or an annoyingly distant person that they have trouble reading.

I long for depth and meaning.
Other people just seem to want to chat about nothing.

I can feel a very deep emotional connection to a group of people, but when I want to join in, I'm often ignored or rejected.

Deep connections form easily with a select few people. Well, there are a lot of them but compared to the entire population they are a select few. However, the connections are often temporary. For instance this week has been like a crisis-filled Lifetime movie because of the people I am "deeply connected" to. In the end trust is difficult, and people will often do or say something that will make me not want to be close to them anymore.

People have said that I can spot social and emotional things on a whole group level that they'd never take the time to think about. They've praised and ridiculed me for being able to see things that they can't.

This is because I think deeply about why people do the things they do. Other people don't think at all, they just copy or do. They just seem to chat away. They don't often take the time to think why. They don't step back from the situation and try to analyse it. I'm constantly analysing everything in depth and detail all the time. I analyse emotions, actions and physical objects. I try to think about social situations on a global systems level. I wonder about culture.

The problems come because they are usually thinking shallowly and locally, whereas I'm thinking in depth and globally. We seem to be on different levels of understanding. Their level is more generalised, mine is more detailed.

now that im older, yes its going to be a source of depression in my life i can already feel it.

but then i think, you know most people wouldnt want to hassle with me or find me too picky to begin with so that would probably make any depression i had about not being with someone turn into the thing that crawled out of the swamp to eat yer wife.

its just not worth it!