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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:09 am    Post subject: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Women hit on me but I'm straight so it's awkward. If I was bi, I'd be happy with my lady fans. I'm also an aspie so I feel that in combination with my weight makes me completely undesirable. I sometimes feel that without resorting to liposuction that I'll never be good enough for guys my age. Guys never want me, they want my friends. Sad

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


7/15 Update: I figured I would post this here so everybody can see that I'm actually doing something about my condition. See? I'm not a total hypocrite. XD

Day three of my new diet and exercise regiment. I'm feeling pretty good about how things are going.

7am: 20 minute brisk walk (wakes me up with the fresh morning air)
Breakfast: bowl of low-fat granola (or blueberry oatmeal, depending on my cravings)
9am: 15-30 minutes on the exercise bike at 70-80 rotations per minute. (My legs feel like lead afterwards but I feel SO GOOD.)
Lunch (11 or noon) : Some form of low-fat sammich (yay flatbreads!) or egg substitute with reduced fat cheese and hot sauce (I LOVE Frankie's Red Hot Sauce).
1pm: 30 minute core workout with 5 pound kettle bell (I'll upgrade to 10 next week, when I'm used to the movements).
Dinner (4pm or 5pm): Some low-cal low fat dinner I make with grilled meats accompanied with a salad of some variety. (Strawberry and Spinach salad is my favorite!) Smile
7-8pm: 50 cal Fruit pop, homemade smoothie or a cup of yogurt for dessert. ^_^

After all this, I feel sore but it feels good. My head is in a happy place. As far as the food goes, I don't feel deprived of anything really. The commercials for restaurant food don't even tempt me anymore. ^_^


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would date someone who is fatter than I am, but only because I'm almost a skeleton so any girl who isn't anorexic is probably fatter than me. Someone who weighs 250 lbs? Hell, no. I don't see what's with all these fat people complaining that they can't get a date. All you gotta do is change your diet and exercise more. It's not like you were born with cleft lip or something.

I have a feeling a lot of fat people don't enjoy exercising. They feel like they're exercising a lot because they go to the gym maybe twice a week. The problem is they exercise to lose weight, not for pleasure. You have to enjoy it, otherwise you won't have the motivation to do it. I take walks every day, run through the woods, and run up and down steep hills, because it feels good. I don't just make a half-@$$ed attempt at it like most half-hearted dieters probably do.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:17 am    Post subject: Re: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

Erisad wrote:
I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


Right so overhearing one conversation makes us all the same? Thanks for that conclusion.

I think part of the problem here is media culture when in the U.S and to a lesser extent UK everyone is seen to be needing to be perfect.

Contray to popular belief, most men like women with curves and with plenty of flesh on the bone. The idea that we all want stick insect sized supermodels is more often then not a complete myth.

I must also point out that fat girls get far more sympathy in the media then fat guys do.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I would date someone who is fatter than I am, but only because I'm almost a skeleton so any girl who isn't anorexic is probably fatter than me. Someone who weighs 250 lbs? Hell, no. I don't see what's with all these fat people complaining that they can't get a date. All you gotta do is change your diet and exercise more. It's not like you were born with cleft lip or something.


Because weight loss is hard for women. I'm already sacrificing sleep for exercise and have changed my diet already. :/

It's guys like you that makes me lose hope in me ever being happy.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:21 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's not all men -- it really depends on how you are shaped (BBW vs. just big), and also regional, cultural, and ethnic tastes. I've noticed black men tend to like bigger women, black or otherwise, but not so much on the white guy side. Still, if you want to be smaller, have you spoken to your physician? Working with a doctor on the issue will be a lot more effective than fad diets and unguided exercise.

I'm with you on how hard it is -- I struggle with my weight as well, yet work out 4-5 times a week.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:21 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

erisad, don't get down. personally, i don't care about weight or anything. it's what's going on in their head that counts.

and i think you're cute. someone would be lucky to have you.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:21 am    Post subject: Re: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


Right so overhearing one conversation makes us all the same? Thanks for that conclusion.

I think part of the problem here is media culture when in the U.S and to a lesser extent UK everyone is seen to be needing to be perfect.

Contray to popular belief, most men like women with curves and with plenty of flesh on the bone. The idea that we all want stick insect sized supermodels is more often then not a complete myth.

I must also point out that fat girls get far more sympathy in the media then fat guys do.


It's just that conversation made me realize that they were right. I'm not good enough. I hear the whole "curves" thing and that doesn't bring me any comfort because if that were true, I would be happier.

Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

There's a difference between being curvy and being overweight, though.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:25 am    Post subject: Re: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

Erisad wrote:
Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


Right so overhearing one conversation makes us all the same? Thanks for that conclusion.

I think part of the problem here is media culture when in the U.S and to a lesser extent UK everyone is seen to be needing to be perfect.

Contray to popular belief, most men like women with curves and with plenty of flesh on the bone. The idea that we all want stick insect sized supermodels is more often then not a complete myth.

I must also point out that fat girls get far more sympathy in the media then fat guys do.


It's just that conversation made me realize that they were right. I'm not good enough. I hear the whole "curves" thing and that doesn't bring me any comfort because if that were true, I would be happier.

Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


It must be a culture difference then because over here in Great Britain most fat guys are just ignored and most fat women have got bf's. (At least all the ones I know have)

Question though, would you date someone who is the same weight as yourself?
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

billsmithglendale wrote:
It's not all men -- it really depends on how you are shaped (BBW vs. just big), and also regional, cultural, and ethnic tastes. I've noticed black men tend to like bigger women, black or otherwise, but not so much on the white guy side. Still, if you want to be smaller, have you spoken to your physician? Working with a doctor on the issue will be a lot more effective than fad diets and unguided exercise.

I'm with you on how hard it is -- I struggle with my weight as well, yet work out 4-5 times a week.


I'm not attracted to black guys. Not to mention if I were to fall for one, my family would never let me marry him so it's pointless to move in that direction.

My doctor's a bit of an as*hole so I don't really want to talk to him about that. Bastard bruised me when giving me my meningitis and tetnus shot and thought it was funny. Besides doctors don't care about their patients. They just want our money. :/
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My advice is to move to a different country. Odds are your weight would go down, or be less of an issue, and you might like your doctors better.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:28 am    Post subject: Re: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

Erisad wrote:
Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


This is one area where women are a lot dumber than men. They generally go for someone who's large and beefy, often not realizing that most beefy guys are beefy because they're fat, not because they're muscular. Next time you see a really hot girl walking with a gigantic hulk, take a look at his arms. It's all fat.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I spent several years as an adult being very slim and many more years being very fat and I found it did not make any difference with dateing. Men did not seem to mind my weight but they did mind my personality. I did have much more interest off men when I was very slim but that was a nuisance more than anything and I prefer to have less attention. That also comes with age, now Im in my 30's Im in the 'mumsy' category rather than the 'sexy' category that 20 year olds are in, but I much prefer walking around town and not getting approached or commented at.

I find that fat or slim, when men ask me out its because they fancy me, rather than because they like me, I find my personality grates on them after a while and they are not able to tollerate me. I dont think looks matter over all, as people stay with those who they get on with rather than those they fancy, especially in the 'long haul'. I expect things will get easier for you as time goes on as older men often prefer fatter women and are less interested in 'arm candy' to show off and more interested in a deeper relationship.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:31 am    Post subject: Re: Why do guys hate fat chicks? Reply with quote

Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


Right so overhearing one conversation makes us all the same? Thanks for that conclusion.

I think part of the problem here is media culture when in the U.S and to a lesser extent UK everyone is seen to be needing to be perfect.

Contray to popular belief, most men like women with curves and with plenty of flesh on the bone. The idea that we all want stick insect sized supermodels is more often then not a complete myth.

I must also point out that fat girls get far more sympathy in the media then fat guys do.


It's just that conversation made me realize that they were right. I'm not good enough. I hear the whole "curves" thing and that doesn't bring me any comfort because if that were true, I would be happier.

Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


It must be a culture difference then because over here in Great Britain most fat guys are just ignored and most fat women have got bf's. (At least all the ones I know have)

Question though, would you date someone who is the same weight as yourself?


I have dated someone the same weight as me before. He was an abusive prick. I guess all men are destined to hate me. :/
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 11:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hate? Nah. Its such a strong word. Avoid would be a better word. Its just what people go for, for some its the outside that is the only thing that matters and there are many of them, thats why you hear alot of it.

Me, i'd rather take a round girl any day over an "Angelina Joulie" with a cigarette in her mouth and a kid in her arms...
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