Are you afraid you lack engh emotional feeling for a rltshp?

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I do at times.

Me too. But I'm resolved not to worry until I've given it a try. I like the things I worry about to have evidentiary support.

For me, it's that my emotions get the best of me.

I'm very emotional, and not shy about expressing it.

Let me illustrate some examples of what i mean:

1. When s.o has problem in life like say some relative is being very nasty to her and you don't feel like hugging necessarily or feel bad due to her feeling bad.

2. the whole saying "I love you"

I am very worried that I won't be emotionally avalible enough to satisfy my partner. I feel emotions to an overwhelming degree, and as a way to cope, I simply shut out all of my feelings, and act accordingly.

In strange situations, such as a new relationship, I can't imagine this changing at all, apart from getting worse.
It just hurts because I just wish I could express my love and adoration to those in my life who I cherish, but I actually can't. This isn't just romantic relationships for me, it's all relationships.

I have a lack of empathy in general situations, and I fear that would be a hurdle in a relationship. However, I'm not dead inside. Certain things affect me in profound emotional ways, such as music. I tear up whenever certain pieces of music are played.

I always feel like I should be more emotional in a relationship, especially since I'm the girl.

yeah, I definitely feel that way. Especially since my emotions are so confusing. And at the current time I don't even know what romantic love feels like.

I'm not sure I'm really afraid of it, but it may be the case.

If anything, I'm too emotional. I have very thin skin, and wear my heart on my sleeve. I can take things very personally. I think a romantic partner would be looking for someone nice, like me, but also tougher and better able to control their emotions.

I am the same way. I feel things very, very deeply, and sometimes the only way I can cope is to just shut them off completely.

I also have trouble expressing my emotions as well as letting people know that I understand and sympathise with theirs. This leads to a lot of tension between myself and my mother, who tells me that I seem to not understand empathy. That couldn't be further from the truth, as I "feel" peoples' emotions nearly as much as I feel my own...it's just that I have a lot of difficulty with actually showing that understanding.