He's creeping me out

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I meet a guy a couple of weeks ago.
We chatted for about 30 min, then he facebooked me saying we should be bf/gf.
I accepted - I was really excited because I never usually even talk to guys, let alone date them .

He keeps facebook telling me how he loves me, and can't stop thinking about me - but we've only met once - so how can he feel that way?

He is just creeping me out. What should I do?
Or am I over-reacting?

I wouldn't trust him. :/
Did you agree to date him over a 30 minute chat? If so, is a 30 minute chat a good enough judge to base a relationship on?

It's hard to know. Maybe he fell in love at first sight... it does happen. That's how I felt when I first met my husband... he told me he was a bit freaked out that suddenly this woman he'd only just met was all over him. Well, I couldn't help myself, and obviously he got over his shock at my behaviour. It had never happened to him before (me neither... I don't normally throw myself at men.)

Then again, maybe he's creepy. You'd have to ask someone nearer the situation what they think.

To be honest, that wasn't the most wise thing to do. There are some strange people out there. Just talking to someone for 30 minutes is not enough to judge a relationship on. You should be confident in yourself. Just because one guy talks to you, does not mean he will treat you well. You should take your time with relationships, and get to know guys as friends, first and then see where they go. This guy clearly has some issues, and you might think of talking to your parents, or an aunt / uncle etc about it.

I'm here if you'd like to talk, whether on here or through PM.

Don't go anywhere alone with this guy. Even if "love at first sight" exists its merely lust & a descent guy will approach you slowly so as not to creep you out. You could also try not responding to all his messages by claiming/actually having work or doing stuff so he knows you have a life beyond him.

tell him to hold his horses

Yeah that is quite creepy. But some guys are naive about these things and come on too strongly without having bad intentions.

Then again he could be the possessive stalker type. Who knows.

Just tell him that you feel things are moving too fast, and aren't sure you're ready for a relationship yet and would like to just get to know him or whatever.

How old is he? He should realize you need a little space.

+1 to this. Tell him that you're grateful for his feelings and attention, but this is new to you and you're in no rush. You want to savor/enjoy the time and relationship and not rush into anything.

I've watched enough romantic movies (get dragged to enough of them) to realize that love-at-first-sight must exist on a planet w/ 4,000,000,000+ people. It's just rare and frightening because it's not typical.

If he is young, immature or lacks relationship experience, it's all to easy to confuse the early infatuation and attention of a relationship with "love".

This does not mean he is dangerous or harmful, just lacks proper context.

You're not over-reacting. He is!! Be careful!

Ok, thanks for advice.
I think I will memorize merle's advice, and quote parts to him - I'm really not good at talking to people

I'm not the most relationship experienced, and I don't know much about dating in the teens, but what about telling him to take it slow since you two have just met?

You sent him a message when you accepted relationship status after 30 minutes, sorry.

That message screams "Serious commitment after no time" I know you're only young,but that message can be enough for a young guy to pour his heart out to you.

Just give him the heads up that its moving to fast. I don't think he did anything wrong, you just got to make it clear

yes, creepy. too fast. go with your instincts.

love at first sight only exists in retrospect, when we look back years later at 'how we met'. people say they somehow knew they would fall in love, but they only say that once they're engaged in cruise control in a committed relationship.

So wait...you agreed to be someone's gf before you even met them?

Damn that is crazy and something you should NEVER EVER do. Though I admit I've made similar screwups before. 1st boyfriend in high school: met him at a church function only once. We spent some weeks talking to each other on the phone when he said that he loved me. This was before we even went on a date together and things just got disturbingly crazy from there.

Moral is guys like that really are as creepy and obsessive as they seem to be. Block him with your privacy settings if at all possible and dont give him any personal info like your email and phone number and such. The threat will go away the longer you keep a buffer between the two of you.

This.

I know all too well how easy it is to get over-excited about relationship stuff, it's not a sign that his intentions are bad.

Don't buy into the hype, not all guys are serial rapists scouring the globe (and internet) for prey.