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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 2:17 pm    Post subject: Do you feel like you're more mature than the average person? Reply with quote

I don't know about the rest of you, but when it comes to maturity, I feel like I'm 10 years older than I am. I'm thought to be a wise guy (literally). I learn fast, because I'm very observant of people, their lives and their behaviors. I feel like an alien studying humans, and learning more about them than they know about themselves. Twisted Evil Although I still can be ignorant, and maybe even naive sometimes, but my self-awareness in that regard helps me patch it up.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 2:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

No. I just don't derive pleasure from the same things they do.

It might make me appear superficially "mature," but I don't consider myself to be. Afterall, I still watch cartoons and play videogames. Oh, and I'm a 27-year-old virgin.

"Maturity" is subjective.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 2:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think I some ways we are less mature, certainly in the social skills department. However, I agree that we are more mature in other ways. I think we have a certain quality, like intellect, although there's something else as well as that, insightfulness maybe? Whatever it is, it seems to allow us to see the world how it is, rather than how we want it to be.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 2:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

XFilesGeek wrote:
No. I just don't derive pleasure from the same things they do.

It might make me appear superficially "mature," but I don't consider myself to be. Afterall, I still watch cartoons and play videogames. Oh, and I'm a 27-year-old virgin.

"Maturity" is subjective.

This is what I mean when I say we are less mature in some ways. We have a child-like naivety. On the other hand I think my "world view" is more advanced than other people my age.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 2:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I play some video games too. I don't really consider it to be immature. I just don't yell and scream and jump around in excitement whilst doing so. I watch cartoons when they're... I dunno... made to be for a mature audience? lolz. I just take myself way too seriously, but I try not to. It's just my nature; I feel 10 years older than I am.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Qi wrote:
I play some video games too. I don't really consider it to be immature. I just don't yell and scream and jump around in excitement whilst doing so. I watch cartoons when they're... I dunno... made to be for a mature audience? lolz. I just take myself way too seriously, but I try not to. It's just my nature; I feel 10 years older than I am.


Like I said, it depends on who you ask. Very Happy

I told a co-worker I'd be spending my weekend playing "Mass Effect2," and he responded, "What? You're not a 19-year-old kid! Isn't that what kids do?"

Also, growing up, I occasionally felt that certain people expected too much of me based on my perceived "maturity." I didn't know any more about life than any other child, but adults thought that I should since I always acted like a "little adult." Looking back, I don't think it was very fair.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

When I was twenty I felt mature, experienced and quite superior. I know the feeling of studying humans as if they constitute an alien race, lacking in my degree of self awareness. But since I've used that self-awareness to avoid the School of Hard Knocks, at sixty I feel less mature and experienced (read damaged) than my "peers." Thank goodness.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes.

Then I try arguing over the Internet and remember how s**t at it I really am. >_>
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I do actually.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes, I do. But maturity is relative.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

According to normal standards I'm definitely less mature for my age. In terms of my emotions, they are still at a child-like intensity level. They just haven't damped down with age like they do for "normal" people. I still feel like throwing a huge tantrum at some point more days than not. I've never been able to get through disappointments with the stoic attitude of NTs adults who have the "just deal with it" mantra and can seemingly bounce back from anything. Meh. I don't get it.

In terms of intelligence and general wisdom/insight though I'm way ahead of most people (not trying to sound arrogant, I just think it's the truth).
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 5:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I feel immature for my age in some areas and advanced in others. For instance Im 21yof and I still play video games, like playing with toys, still plays cars with my 5 yr old cousin, I like playing tag and ghosts in the graveyard, I still like going to candy stores or toys r us. I could continue to list off a number of things but to me thats who I am its other people views that make me realize its a bit immature. But other times I look at them and see them as being immature for not thinking realisticly about things or not understanding certain concepts. I may not be able to understand social situations or emotions of others but I feel compared to things I do understand those weaknesses of mine are minor. I have managed to get farther with my own "common sense" than others my age.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 5:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You may feel more mature when younger, set apart from your peer group socially and often concerned with specific subjects of interest which you learn about in great detail, unlike others your age.

As you become older though, you may find the opposite becomes true, in that as others your age start to develop careers and have families, a lot of the things that seem to come naturally to them as adults still seem like big grown-up chores that you're never quite adequate at. That's the Executive Function part of the brain that for those with AS and HFA pretty much stops developing beyond adolescence. So you may find that as you get older, you start to feel significantly less mature than your peers.
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 5:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Avengilante wrote:
As you become older though, you may find the opposite becomes true, in that as others your age start to develop careers and have families, a lot of the things that seem to come naturally to them as adults still seem like big grown-up chores that you're never quite adequate at. That's the Executive Function part of the brain that for those with AS and HFA pretty much stops developing beyond adolescence. So you may find that as you get older, you start to feel significantly less mature than your peers.

Does not wanting to "develop a career" and/or "start a family" make one immature? I don't see how the world truly needs us to keep on reproducing just because we a genetically programed to do so. I suppose "maturity" itself is some kind of programmed societal norm. But what exactly is the point anyways?
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 09, 2010 5:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree with Marshall.

And say that you can be totally immature and have a job and kids and family etc.

Maturity is not synonymous with ability to function.
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