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ItsBridget
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31 Jan 2011, 1:47 pm

I am about to be the only ASD adult on a local Autism Services committee. I really want to get this right. I understand my own experience, but one topic I often on WP and Twitter is completely foreign to me; loneliness and desire to connect with others. I read so many ASD people wanting NTs to like them. I've never put much concern into whether or not people like me. I only feel embarrassed in public if I make an intellectual error. (Social errors tend to amuse me, leading to inappropriate giggles, but that's another story.)
Understanding it's not a fair question, what would you tell someone like me to suggest to a room full of NT mental health professionals?



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31 Jan 2011, 2:02 pm

You could tell them that some aspies crave relationships while others don't?


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31 Jan 2011, 2:06 pm

I am actually glad to read this because I feel like you do. I really don't care that much and also find my errors funny most of the time. I consider myself to be an extreme intovert though. I think that there are "extroverted" Aspie types.. What I mean by that is that an introvert draws energy from their alone time whereby an extravert gets energy from time spent with other people. I joined an Aspergers adult support group and was shocked at how much those guys go out and socialze. That just is NOT for me.

They tell me that they get together all the time because they do crave socialization and it is a hard thing for them to do with NTs due to the lack of social skills.



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31 Jan 2011, 4:54 pm

Yeah I have to say that over all I almost hate people. I don't like being in public at all and only work because my girlfriends issue is worse then mine. I think that I care for my girlfriend but it is a constant struggle and most the time I think i would be better off alone. AS is hard to live with sometimes. I wish I was on the side were I craved human interaction. I love puppies though.



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31 Jan 2011, 8:00 pm

Moog wrote:
You could tell them that some aspies crave relationships while others don't?


That's a good way to put it. Tell them that. :)


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31 Jan 2011, 8:30 pm

There are some who both crave interaction and hate it at the same time.

I enjoy interacting with people, but I hate it too, because it really stresses me out and wears me down.


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