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nintendofan
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:16 am    Post subject: not welcome on here :( Reply with quote

......i just feel like im not welcome on here,
everyone thinks im speaking a diffrent laungege or somthing.
all the posts i see on here are related to asperger syndrome.... im not asperger syndrome i have stronger autism.
im just confused realy Sad
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think you should be welcome on here, and like reading the posts of people with classic autism. Smile
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jovialwilliams
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Why not write a thread obout the stronger end of the spectrum? I for one enjoyed reading your posts(and your Link pic).
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stick around. There's strength in diversity. We need you.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

i used to feel unwelcome because i am lower functioning than the people who are popular, but i realized that most people do not know what to say to me because i do not say things in a way that encourages replies.
i do not feel unwelcome anymore because i see that there are some people who are barely legible and get almost no replies, but they are not unwelcome either.

i do not know what to say to you, but someone advised me in a PM once to ask questions of people rather than just state my case. in my case i do not feel it is any of my business to ask questions of people, and as well as that, i do not know what to ask.

i told the person who sent me the PM that i did not know what to ask, and she said "just say your piece and end with 'what about you?' ", but that feels unnatural to me.

the only people who i would think are generally unwelcome are people who troll. some posters may make you feel unwelcome, but they are not spokespeople for the rest of the site. i have been told to leave WP in some posts by members who disliked me, but they are sitting on their own in their room saying that. it is not like they are physically with all the members of WP who look on and nod in agreement.

i do agree however that the bulk of discussion is shared by people who know how to socialize and small talk better than i do.

i hope things get better for you.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well I see we have at least one thing in common... I live between my headphones.
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169Kitty
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

b9 wrote:
i used to feel unwelcome because i am lower functioning than the people who are popular, but i realized that most people do not know what to say to me because i do not say things in a way that encourages replies.
i do not feel unwelcome anymore because i see that there are some people who are barely legible and get almost no replies, but they are not unwelcome either.

i do not know what to say to you, but someone advised me in a PM once to ask questions of people rather than just state my case. in my case i do not feel it is any of my business to ask questions of people, and as well as that, i do not know what to ask.

i told the person who sent me the PM that i did not know what to ask, and she said "just say your piece and end with 'what about you?' ", but that feels unnatural to me.

the only people who i would think are generally unwelcome are people who troll. some posters may make you feel unwelcome, but they are not spokespeople for the rest of the site. i have been told to leave WP in some posts by members who disliked me, but they are sitting on their own in their room saying that. it is not like they are physically with all the members of WP who look on and nod in agreement.

i do agree however that the bulk of discussion is shared by people who know how to socialize and small talk better than i do.

i hope things get better for you.


I have a hard time participating on internet forums because I rarely get many replies. Threads I reply to seem to come to a halt after I post on them. I find I get similar results in real life. I try to ask questions but I just don't get why I seem to suck at conversational skills. This is one of the things I'm going to write om my list of symptoms so I can talk about it when I go for my testing on Feb. 15th. If I don't write it down I'll forget to mention it.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

b9 wrote:
people who are popular


That one thing I never thought I'd read on an AS forum Laughing
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 2:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I feel unwelcome too . I don't have a special talent and can not think as logical as most people on this forum.
Nobody responds to my posts that can take me a half hour to write. When I post on this forum I get anxious and feel like crying.
This is like real life where some people are more popular than others.

I like your posts better than some of the popular aspies posts.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think it just takes some time for people to get to know one another, especially on a forum where there's no face-to-face interaction, and where there's such a large number of posters. Even if you don't get replies right away, try try again!

Think of it this way: People may not reply right away because they are taking the time to get to know you and might also be shy to start a conversation. The more you post, the more people can build up a knowledge of who you are and will be more apt to reply. Just because someone hasn't replied to a comment most certainly doesn't mean they didn't read it, agree with it, laugh with it, or that it didn't make their day!

I really believe that the majority of it is just shyness and unfamiliarity, which is something I think that a great number of us are afflicted with.

That said, what are your favorite Nintendo games? Mine is Yoshi's Story from N64!
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

169Kitty wrote:

I have a hard time participating on internet forums because I rarely get many replies. Threads I reply to seem to come to a halt after I post on them. I find I get similar results in real life. I try to ask questions but I just don't get why I seem to suck at conversational skills. This is one of the things I'm going to write om my list of symptoms so I can talk about it when I go for my testing on Feb. 15th. If I don't write it down I'll forget to mention it.



You're not alone with this.
At times, I feel like I am king of the thread-killers... sometimes people relate, sometimes they just don't.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well if there's one thing I've never been accused of, it's being too popular Wink

But I can understand the frustration you guys have - I think almost all of us experience that same frustration in the real world. But just by sharing your frustrations here, you can find those of us who can relate and sympathize. I think your sharing in this post is a good first step!

And if it makes you feel any better, I am a major conversation killer too. A total ninja at it, in fact.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 4:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hello there NintendoFan!! I'm Jen. I sometimes feel that way too. I have a marked learning disability, but have many characteristics of aspergers or something else on the spectrum. And considering my birth I may have fragile - x syndrome, but I do not know that as I definite. Just going by the various labels I have had since birth lol. It's made life difficult, but I try real hard. So I can relate to you not feeling like you fit in. But I have encountered so many interesting and kind people here...not to mention very knowledgeable on various things!!!
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 4:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

artrat wrote:
I feel unwelcome too . I don't have a special talent and can not think as logical as most people on this forum.
Nobody responds to my posts that can take me a half hour to write. When I post on this forum I get anxious and feel like crying.
This is like real life where some people are more popular than others.

I like your posts better than some of the popular aspies posts.

Crying or Very sad i like your posts, artrat. i try to respond when you say something that i relate to. i find your posts very interesting.

b9, i am happy to see you building connections with other members by telling them how you have similar feelings to them. i am sure they appreciate hearing from you.

nintendofan, you've created some posts and threads that have gotten good responses and people seem interested in what you are saying. i hope that you stay and that you keep posting.
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169Kitty
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 5:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

artrat wrote:
I feel unwelcome too . I don't have a special talent and can not think as logical as most people on this forum.
Nobody responds to my posts that can take me a half hour to write. When I post on this forum I get anxious and feel like crying.
This is like real life where some people are more popular than others.

I like your posts better than some of the popular aspies posts.


It also takes me a long time to write posts. It takes me a long time to write about anything. A 5 page paper for school takes me 2 weeks. I was shocked when I learned some people can write them in one day or less.
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