Advice on Interracial relationships

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I have always had the guts to try to date the opposite race. I've had opportunities to turn my love toward the opposite race and turn it into a serious relationship, but the minute I try to make it a serious relationship - BAM!! ! - I say something racist to the woman, and she drops the relationship immediately. I seriously want to date either a woman from the African-American, Latino/Hispanic, or Asian ethnicities. Can I get some advice on how to succeed in a healthy, successful, and intimate Long-term Interracial Relationship?

How about just dating women without looking at the colour of their skin? It's OK to fancy certain racial attributes and to go for women who fit them but the way you sound like you're going about it sounds like it gives them the creeps.

i agree with Tequila, skin colour or ethnicity should not matter in relationships; neither positive nor negative.

however, if you are set on specifically wanting interracial; you should look for signs of higher vieuw.
you should be careful to not show too much racism, both positive and negative (so also things like "nigerians are always good at running, so why not you"), but on the other hand, she should also not mind that much if something slips by, just as any woman should not mind a great deal if she overhears you and your friends joking about how "women should stay in the kitchen" or something like that.

Yup - it's the unhealthy fetishisation of interracial relationships (probably influenced by porn?) that is your real problem here, not simply the idea of finding black women attractive in general. It sounds like you're obsessed with race and they don't want to be around people like that. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with an NT who was obsessed with my autism, for instance.

Basing a relationship on a cosmetic fetish is ineffective in the long run.

And just what does the OP mean by "Opposite Race", anyway?

I don;t understand why is the race of the person an issue? I don't think there can be any advice on this o.o

There's no such thing as an opposite race.

What sort of things have you said which they were offended by?

I'm also confused by what "opposite race" means.

The guy I'm seeing right now is Hispanic and I'm white, but I can honestly say he and I have never had any problems related to that. Some members of his family, on the other hand, have shown some cultural biases I'm not confident will ever be overcome. Luckily, they live in LA and that tension is not an issue on a regular basis, just occasionally over holiday visits and that sort of thing.

The thing is, though, that we started dating because we have personalities that pair well together and we get along, not because we were seeking out someone of a particular race and that's why it's not a problem for us. So, I really don't have tips for having a successful interracial relationship would necessarily be different than with any other relationship.

There is no "opposite" race. All people have the same skin hue; only the intensity of that value varies. Victims of albinism may be the only exception.

I make this claim based on my work in video broadcasting. A vectorscopic analysis of the chroma signal from a person's image (usually a close-up of the face) will reveal that the phase angle does not change, but that the luma signal does no matter how dark a person's skin may appear.

Again, I haven't seen the vectorscope patter for a person afflicted with Albinism.

That's really interesting, Fnord!

Race is a social construct. Period. The end. OP, If you can, *please* find a way to divorce yourself from the concept of race. There's nothing wrong with fancying someone with particular physical features, but do not try to lump it into "race". I'll bet money that's where you're going wrong, every single time.

The opposite race? As in, she's human and you're not?

I think you have two problems, which is actually the same problem:

- You don't want to date an individual, you want to date a member of a race.
- You say racist things.

The solution? Stop being racist so things might improve.

cultural diffrent is the best answer what op should be looking for.

i alway wander how interracial realtionships would look on a person who was already mix like me. i tend to physicaly have attraction for east indian men from my culture. i happen to be already mixed about 1/3 east indian already. so i do not really know if that really interracial dating if i date someone full east indian as i am already mix with it, so it not a true interracial realtionship. i need someone to answer this thought on what they think. whould that count as interracial or not. i should make thead about this

but if i dated someone not made with my mixes then it is interracial dating