ExcitinglyOpaque
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 Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:45 pm Post subject: When people ask where the autistic adults are... |
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Who else is so annoyed?
"Where are the autistic adults handflapping, toe-walking, and throwing tantrums?"
"RIGHT HERE!" I say to a computer or television, or to people who won't listen anyway. Granted, I don't have meltdowns - I have shutdowns - but the ironic thing is that, when I hear these things or read these things in private, I'm usually handflapping after toe-walking. Do people just forget that adults wear shoes? Why the misconception that autistic people don't grow up to, well, hide their behaviors?
Erasure is so frustrating. |
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Jory
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| It's like saying "where are all the black people who don't listen to rap?" or "where are all the gay people who aren't flaming queens?" Answer: The stereotype is most often represented in the media. When you think of autistics, you think of kids, because the media focuses overwhelmingly on kids. They're responsible for the stereotypes in the first place. |
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Radiofixr
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 7:08 pm Post subject: |
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I handflap and have meltdowns
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Tuttle
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 9:03 pm Post subject: |
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| I've actually never heard that question. |
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aspie48
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| Tuttle wrote: | | I've actually never heard that question. |
lucky you. it gets annoying. I've heard it plenty. i think Jenny McCarthy and her goons like to repeat it.
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Tuttle
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 10:22 pm Post subject: |
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| aspie48 wrote: | | Tuttle wrote: | | I've actually never heard that question. |
lucky you. it gets annoying. I've heard it plenty. i think Jenny McCarthy and her goons like to repeat it. |
It might partially be because I don't hide my autism, and partially be because the people I know have even specifically heard of Asperger's before I say anything. |
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Apple_in_my_Eye
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I think a lot of people are given the idea that "autism == no development whatsoever (unless program X is used)." So, they expect all autistic adults (who did not get the benefit of program X) to behave just like their 4 year-old kid. Since the don't see that in their everyday life they conclude that there were and are no ASD adults.
Oh and it just occurred to me that that question may be being used in the context of fund-raising. IOW, "ZOMG, there's an epidemic! !1! You can tell there is because there's no autistic adults!! You have to give us money now or we're all gonna be swimming in autistics tomorrow!!! And then we'll all die!!!! AHhh!!!!" |
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aspie48
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| Apple_in_my_Eye wrote: | I think a lot of people are given the idea that "autism == no development whatsoever (unless program X is used)." So, they expect all autistic adults (who did not get the benefit of program X) to behave just like their 4 year-old kid. Since the don't see that in their everyday life they conclude that there were and are no ASD adults.
Oh and it just occurred to me that that question may be being used in the context of fund-raising. IOW, "ZOMG, there's an epidemic! !1! You can tell there is because there's no autistic adults!! You have to give us money now or we're all gonna be swimming in autistics tomorrow!!! And then we'll all die!!!! AHhh!!!!" |
true. i think its just the fringe conspiracy theorists who say this though.
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graywyvern
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 10:17 am Post subject: where are all |
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the annoyingness of the question aside, i see an unusually high incidence among my coworkers at the bookstore. on some shift-days they're actually in the majority.
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SyphonFilter
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| I get annoyed too. I'll say to myself, "I'm right here!" while spinning around. |
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glider18
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| Tuttle wrote: | | I've actually never heard that question. |
I haven't heard this question either.
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Sweetleaf
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 3:10 pm Post subject: Re: When people ask where the autistic adults are... |
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| ExcitinglyOpaque wrote: | Who else is so annoyed?
"Where are the autistic adults handflapping, toe-walking, and throwing tantrums?"
"RIGHT HERE!" I say to a computer or television, or to people who won't listen anyway. Granted, I don't have meltdowns - I have shutdowns - but the ironic thing is that, when I hear these things or read these things in private, I'm usually handflapping after toe-walking. Do people just forget that adults wear shoes? Why the misconception that autistic people don't grow up to, well, hide their behaviors?
Erasure is so frustrating. |
How is hiding your symptoms and growing up synonymous.........strange logic people have, strange logic indeed.
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BuyerBeware
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Where are all the autistic adults????
HIDING!!!!
I know of one living way up the back of a hollow somewhere. I imagine he's not the only one who shuns civilization.
I know I, personally, don't go out unless I know I'm going to be able to be on my NT behavior.
I further know I'm not the only one.
So... Being able to make the NTs comfortable around you means you're "fixed"????
Wow. We can "fix" autism...
...but there's still no cure for STUPID.
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TheBookworm
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| Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2012 11:54 pm Post subject: Re: When people ask where the autistic adults are... |
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| ExcitinglyOpaque wrote: |
...after toe-walking. Do people just forget that adults wear shoes? . |
 I didn't know that that had anything to do with ASD or autism.
Holy poopers.
I've been doing that since I was really little. I still do, and most people tell me It's bad for my ankles/feet. But I have huge feet (for a girl anyway) so I feel like I don't need to worry.
Wow. |
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Sparkstorm
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The autistic adults have usually learnt that much of society doesn't like people who are different, and are trying to blend in for safety's sake!
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