sage_gerard
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 Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 4:23 pm Post subject: I want to meet happy people |
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One of the things I treasure most is someone who is not pissed off about something.
I've witnessed a great deal of hatred in my life, particularly between the sexes and special interest groups.
I am very lucky to have the life I have, so I'm not angry or offended. I also try not to take many forms of hatred too seriously.
But, sometimes I just get tired. Just... Tired.
I want to meet someone who is genuinely happy with life. Who can look at their problems and see them as fleeting, who can acknowledge negativity without being burdened by it.
To branch off of this context, have you ever had days where you felt like good relationships are not meant to last? Or that the egocentric side of humanity prevents any real sustainable sense of love or unity? Or that the person you are talking to just won't... stop... complaining?
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cathylynn
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 4:41 pm Post subject: |
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i wouldn't call myself overly happy, but i'm content. one of the things my husband loves about me is that i rarely complain. we're out here. don't give up.
also, sometimes complaining is just small talk, something we aspies are not good at. agreeing with someone's complaint can be a bonding experience. |
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all_white
Spells "colour" like a true Brit
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| cathylynn wrote: | | sometimes complaining is just small talk, something we aspies are not good at. agreeing with someone's complaint can be a bonding experience. |
 I'd never thought of that before. When people complain about the weather I always take it literally and start explaining to them why it isn't really such a bad day after all.
Is that really why they're doing it?
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FalsettoTesla
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Location: North of North
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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| cathylynn wrote: | | also, sometimes complaining is just small talk, something we aspies are not good at. agreeing with someone's complaint can be a bonding experience. |
Really!? The ways of the NT's will never cease to amaze me. |
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YourMajesty
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:30 pm Post subject: |
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Yes- the complaining thing struck me already, I noticed people *like* to complain. Maybe it's also a way to release stress.
Satisfied people, hard to find I think. |
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YourMajesty
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RainShadow
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| That's odd, but I can see where people would complain to make small talk. I'm not good with small talk, I prefer to be silent, but then people get all weird. I don't understand why people can't just be content in silence. I enjoy talking, but my brain doesn't shut down which requires me to sit and be silent for long periods of time. Drives my husband crazy, he always thinks there is something wrong with me. |
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Lucywlf
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I try to keep a positive attitude about things; it doesn't always work because of my body chemistry, but I do try.
I agree with the others; sometimes people complain to bond. That's a very tricky area of socialization, though; you have to understand the difference between this and "bitchiness". When I hear it I mostly let the others talk and try to look sympathetic or at least non-judgmental, unless they start gossiping. I don't like gossip. |
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