frostedlookingglass
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 Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 12:43 am Post subject: Voice Regulation |
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I know it's a pretty common problem with Aspies, but for, well, my entire life I have had issues with regulating my voice, particularly in the aspect of how loud I speak.
Sometimes I'm being told that I am "too quite," or am "mumbling." Other times people tell me I'm speaking "too loudly," or am "yelling." The major characteristic of these instances is that I am unaware that I am speaking at a socially unacceptable level, and thusly, this happens to me multiple times a day.
It can be very aggravating to be told off for speaking too loudly or too softly, and thus I have to ask: is there any way to rectify this or assuage the effects of it?
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AngelKnight
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 3:30 pm Post subject: Re: Voice Regulation |
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| frostedlookingglass wrote: | I know it's a pretty common problem with Aspies, but for, well, my entire life I have had issues with regulating my voice, particularly in the aspect of how loud I speak.
Sometimes I'm being told that I am "too quite," or am "mumbling." Other times people tell me I'm speaking "too loudly," or am "yelling." The major characteristic of these instances is that I am unaware that I am speaking at a socially unacceptable level, and thusly, this happens to me multiple times a day.
It can be very aggravating to be told off for speaking too loudly or too softly, and thus I have to ask: is there any way to rectify this or assuage the effects of it? |
Other than paying even more, intense attention to what I'm doing (which is draining), I've not come up with a way.
Theoretically, people practice this sort of thing in acting classes, speaking classes, Toastmasters and the like. I've not tried any of these, so I can provide no info on them. |
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HisDivineMajesty
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 6:50 pm Post subject: |
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I have a notoriously awful voice in itself. Nothing to do with intonation, but the voice itself is very high-pitched, monotonous and buzzy.
It just won't change, and if I hear myself on recordings or videos, I'm ashamed of it. It's more awful than any other voice I've ever heard. |
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 7:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, I have that problem. It was the worst when I was in school and had to do a presentation or speak. I have a problem with my voice being too monotone and also with my speaking to fast and stumbling over my words. |
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sarajane231
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 8:51 am Post subject: |
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| My son has a problem with voice regulation. We are trying a book called "the incredible 5 point scale" and it has a scale for regulating voice volume. It has made things better after a week of use. Still though, he is always speaking too loudly and I feel bad for him because he doesnt know he is doing it. It is much worse when he is excited |
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Dantac
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 1:52 pm Post subject: |
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| lostgirl1986 wrote: | | Yes, I have that problem. It was the worst when I was in school and had to do a presentation or speak. I have a problem with my voice being too monotone and also with my speaking to fast and stumbling over my words. |
Mostly monotone, soft spoken (low volume) and fast speaking and stumbling over words because the brain speaks faster than the lips can keep up with.
Ironically, when I'm pissed off (a very,very rare thing) people tell me that they're shocked to suddenly see me 'switch' to a perfectly comprehensible, confident sounding person that gets the point across in a few words.
I still haven't found a way to keep myself pissed off constantly. Work in progress 
Oh and lostgirl..thats an awesome avatar. I like!  |
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 1:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Dantac wrote: | | lostgirl1986 wrote: | | Yes, I have that problem. It was the worst when I was in school and had to do a presentation or speak. I have a problem with my voice being too monotone and also with my speaking to fast and stumbling over my words. |
Mostly monotone, soft spoken (low volume) and fast speaking and stumbling over words because the brain speaks faster than the lips can keep up with.
Ironically, when I'm pissed off (a very,very rare thing) people tell me that they're shocked to suddenly see me 'switch' to a perfectly comprehensible, confident sounding person that gets the point across in a few words.
I still haven't found a way to keep myself pissed off constantly. Work in progress
Oh and lostgirl..thats an awesome avatar. I like! |
Thanks!  Yeah, the only time people can actually understand me is when I'm drunk ironically. |
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Dantac
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 5:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Do tell what it is you drink. I need to get some of that. |
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 5:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Dantac wrote: | | Do tell what it is you drink. I need to get some of that. |
Only double vodka and cokes for me.  |
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Dantac
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2012 6:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Hmm.. I like cognac / rum more than vodka. But New Zealand makes an incredible vodka called '42 Below' ! |
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iceveela
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I am similar, though not entirely. I have always talked very quietly, too high pitched, and monotonous, to the point where I had social workers write my monotonous voice in their report. I am always asked by people to "speak louder" as they cannot hear me. And was once, by help of my school guidance counselor, was coerced by two other teachers to lower the pitch of my voice or they would not listen to me. Something which to this day confuses me as to why they cared about my voice pitch O.o
I don't think I ever had issues with being too loud though... at least, none that come to mind. Outside of those few times when I was playing with my older brother, or arguing with him, than my voice would become very loud.
My parents often say i talk too much though (about my interests), My mom is the same way.
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Siddhi
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Hey,
I have the same issue. I realised the problem was that in my head i am always talking loudly, so it does not make any difference if i was talking loudly or not. Further i realised it tends to be connected to my state of mind too. So i make a point to look at feedback i get from people. For e.g. if i realise some one is not responding to me, i dont immediately think that the person is not interested but try moving in their sight or consciously speak loudly. I also keep a track of how my throat feels. I know when i am loud the strain on my throat is lot more than when i am softer.
Hope that helps.
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| Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2012 11:10 am Post subject: |
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| I can't regulate the pitch of my voice, and people often perceive my behavior as 'angry' because of my really fast speech. |
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