Tatum
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Joined: Apr 03, 2012
Age: 19
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 Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 6:25 pm Post subject: Depressed.worthless.alone. Is there anywhere to find solace? |
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redrobin62
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Joined: Apr 03, 2012
Age: 50
Posts: 4079
Location: Seattle, WA
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 6:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Welcome to WP. You're among friends here. |
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Tatum
Emu Egg
Joined: Apr 03, 2012
Age: 19
Posts: 6
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 6:32 pm Post subject: |
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| I have never had friends. I don't trust anyone. |
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NTAndrew
Toucan
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 7:05 pm Post subject: Re: Depressed.worthless.alone. Is there anywhere to find sol |
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| Tatum wrote: | | Other than in death? |
The short answer: Yes, there is a place. Talk to us. Describe how you feel. What are your thoughts? Perhaps someone on this forum can direct you there. |
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questor
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Joined: Apr 24, 2011
Posts: 1983
Location: Twilight Zone
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 7:18 pm Post subject: Welcome! |
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Welcome to Wrong Planet Tatum! check out the many interesting and helpful forums here. You are among friends here at WP! 
You need to find ways to occupy yourself.
- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.
- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.
- Eat healthy, and enough of it. A healthier diet will boost your immune system and is also good for your mind. Skimping on amount of food leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick.
- Get enough rest. Being tired leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick, too.
- Listen to and/or play music. This is mood boosting.
- Take courses, either in person, or online. Some of the online ones are free. The in person ones are a good way to meet people.
- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.
- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.
- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.
- Employment/or self employment. Great way to meet people, boost self image, put money in your wallet, gain experience. Since you have been having trouble finding work as an employee, perhaps you should consider self employment. There are many types to choose from.
>> Lawn mowing/yard work/gardening.
>> House cleaning.
>> Errand/shopping service.
>> Wait for service people, so the home owner/renter doesn't have to take time off from work.
>> House/pet sitting.
>> House chores for the elderly/disabled.
>> Handyman.
>> Tutor.
>> Computer maintenance/repair.
>> Website design.
>> Other website based businesses.
>> Paint houses indoor/outdoor.
There are many other self employment opportunities. Your local libraries will have books with lists and descriptions of them, so look into it.
Now, go and do something, and good luck! |
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AardvarkGoodSwimmer
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Location: Houston, Texas
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I like a lot of the things questor lists, but it can't just become another list of 'shoulds.'
There really is a chaotic aspect of what works and what doesn't. Some volunteer organizations, it's as much a job interview as anything else and they seem to be looking for 'normal' people. And I wish that wasn't the case, but sometimes it sure seems to be the case, I guess running about 50-50.
Or, we'll be more optimistic and call it a zen aspect and feel-and-texture and go with the flow in a good way. But, really is kind of a chaotic aspect.
And as maybe as something you can do in the here and now, maybe try and help one person a day here on WP. Sure, you'll miss some days and need dome breaks, so be it. All along you'll be developing skills and helping other people develop skills.
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mntn13
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Joined: Jun 07, 2011
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| welcome, Tatum. |
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cathylynn
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Location: northeastern US
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| pat yourself on the back for using the word "solace". |
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cathylynn
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Location: northeastern US
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| you could think about getting a pet who will love you unconditionally and depend on you. |
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AardvarkGoodSwimmer
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Age: 50
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Location: Houston, Texas
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I have struggled with bouts of depression. I might have decided to try prozac at age 26 for OCD, which I've also struggled with, if the young psychiatrist I was seeing had not been so nasty and self-righteous about the whole thing. He was almost the stereotypically bad authoritarian doctor, when it is of course my life.
Future bouts, I am open to taking antidepressants. Now, as I've read, the biochem tends to be tricky and different for different individuals, so the first antidepressant may not work. And it typically takes a month to tell, and other sources say eight weeks. What I take from this is to get a doctor I can halfway talk with and keep trying different medications until I get one which clicks.
And sometimes it's also important to step down from an antidepressant in phases even if it doesn't seem to be working.
http://articles.latimes.com/2009/aug/03/health/he-depression-stopping-drugs3
And a 'regular' doctor like an internist or family practitioner can prescribe an antidepressant just as well as a psychiatrist. |
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SluvsK
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Joined: May 17, 2012
Posts: 107
Location: USA
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| ((hugs)) And welcome. You can trust us. |
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CockneyRebel
Mick Avory, Sensitive brown-eyed Sweet Pea
Joined: Jul 18, 2004
Age: 38
Posts: 87361
Location: In a quiet and peaceful garden, where gentle Mick Avory-like Sweet Peas grow.
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thewhitrbbit
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Age: 27
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I approach trust like feral cats.
I trust those who have proven they can be trusted. Nothing can ever be proven 100%; but I trust those who have demonstrated a pattern of trustable behavior. |
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Vegetarian
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Jun 04, 2012
Posts: 26
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| Posted: Tue Jun 05, 2012 12:13 am Post subject: we've all been there. |
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| When I get depressed I do something physical. Just taking a walk in the park or the woods helps a lot and I've found Yoga works wonders. |
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Camo
Blue Jay
Joined: May 08, 2012
Age: 46
Posts: 88
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My dog wags his tail when I walk into the room.... got to love that 
He's always pleased to see me, we spend all day together, even take him to work with me...
Hope you find your Solace ...... I have.
Stu |
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