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nickowitz
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 Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2012 10:58 pm Post subject: It's a curse |
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Ok ,so this girl my friend introduced me to was cool .I liked her a lot ,her bestfriend from north Carolina came and I hung out with them once. they invited me togoto a amusement park an I was talking to her abestfriend an she said the girl I liked kinda liked me sooo I got really excited ,then I went to the park with them and her bestfriend kept hinting to me to make a move on the girl ,an I just couldn't think of anything. I tried to talk but it came out most of the time as an awkward squawk. I just couldn't talk to her let alone look at her in the eyes needless to say i didn't do anything ,an when I did I jus got rejected does this thing come naturally for people without aspergers? I wish I could tell people that the awkwardness an not knowing what to do is a result from being an aspie. but people jus wouldn't understand. I have told it to people before an they say it's jus an excuse. I wish they could see how it really is for me. I know I probably sound like a whiny b***h an I know u have probably heard this ten thousand times before but I'm only 16!!!!! I seriously want help or any suggestions or help sites or books
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outofplace
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I found this very difficult to read. It seems to be poorly edited and contains only one or two gigantic run on sentences. You may have better luck getting responses by writing in a style that is not so confusing to the reader.
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nickowitz
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| Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2012 11:13 pm Post subject: I changed it |
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DonkeyBuster
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| Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2012 11:21 pm Post subject: Re: It's a curse |
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| nickowitz wrote: | | Ok ,so this girl my friend introduced me to was cool .I liked her a lot ,her bestfriend from north Carolina came and I hung out with them once. they invited me togoto a amusement park an I was talking to her abestfriend an she said the girl I liked kinda liked me sooo I got really excited ,then I went to the park with them and her bestfriend kept hinting to me to make a move on the girl ,an I just couldn't think of anything. I tried to talk but it came out most of the time as an awkward squawk. I just couldn't talk to her let alone look at her in the eyes needless to say i didn't do anything ,an when I did I jus got rejected does this thing come naturally for people without aspergers? I wish I could tell people that the awkwardness an not knowing what to do is a result from being an aspie. but people jus wouldn't understand. I have told it to people before an they say it's jus an excuse. I wish they could see how it really is for me. I know I probably sound like a whiny b***h an I know u have probably heard this ten thousand times before but I'm only 16!!!!! I seriously want help or any suggestions or help sites or books |
I don't think the opening moves w/a person you're interested in are easy for anyone, NT or AS. Some fake it better than others, but it's basically a set-up for feeling terminally embarrassed. Not all the awkwardness you feel is from being AS, some of it is from being 16 & not having a lot of experience.
You say you did something & got rejected? Could you say more about that? It must have been painful. |
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nickowitz
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| Well it's not that bad .but a couple days earlier her best friend said that( I quote) "she thought I was cute and sh!t" an then there was another girl that came with us an she was tryin to give me hints that I should make a move. (but the girl that was giving me hints also said earlier that week that the girl I liked seemed excited that I was coming) sooooo anyway the bestfriend from north Carolina said to me earlier that day that I should jus try to be nice to her an be chill, she told me I could like ask to hold her hand on a ride when we sat close together. ( they kept tryn to get us to ride together the whole day) but finally when I did sit next to her I sensed she was like why is this happening, an that she seemed reluctant that we were sitting close. But she said that this ride scares her so I asked if I could hold your hand but she denied. I asked twice an the same result happened. But all day I didn't really look at her or in her direction. Had some small talk but it didn't seem to get anywhere. I was confused all that day after that I jus played like nothing bad had happened( I still never looked a her directly all day pretty much). But after I got home ( I didn't ride home with the girl I liked but that was already arranged) I texted her best friend an said sorry if I dissapointed her( the girl I like) in any way. That's exactly what I texted her best fr. I jus don't know what I did wrong. If u want anymore details jus ask |
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Sounds like someone was trying to play matchmaker and it backfired.  |
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DonkeyBuster
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Seems like handholding before a good conversation is jumping the gun a bit. 
Next time there's someone you're interested in, you might try something along the lines of buying them a coke or snack when you got to get one for yourself, try to strike up a conversation, see if you can both relax into just talking w/each other. And let that be enough for the first meeting. If it goes well, ask if she'd like to get together again.
A woman wants to know that you're interested in HER-- her thoughts, her interests--not just grab & grope. Wine & dine, etc.
Is there someone you could practice a more conversational response to this young woman's statement that the rides scare her? It was an opening, you were correct about that. But moving directly to the physical was rushing things. |
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