Women, what do you think of men who are quiet and shy?

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I am shy, soft-spoken, and quiet and I have always had problems with dating.

I've had a couple women who were interested in me before in high school but I was too nervous to ask them out. They were very beautiful women but I blew it. Now when I try to be more assertive and ask women out who I've known for some time, I always get rejected.

I see my appearance as average, and my personality is alright, I guess. I get angry easily in the morning but I'm calm the rest of the day and I hardly raise my voice and I'm open minded.

I admit, I'm still a virgin at 23.

I've never had a girlfriend or dated anyone before.

Weak.

They won't tell you this here tho.

I like shy guys, but if he is too shy to even talk (or communicate thru other means) then I won't know he is interested and it won't go anywhere. I find the shyness endearing.

I think they are cute. They tend to be less full of themselves, and I like that.

This. Stated preferences rarely match actual preferences.
If you say you prefer shy guys, chances are very good you actually prefer guys who lead the way.

What if I said that I prefer loud outgoing guys?

I guess I am a rare person.

You'd be speaking the truth, which has yet to happen here. Perhaps you don't look for the most outgoing overall, but certainly someone more outgoing than you.

I always go for quiet guys, and most of them have been shy too. This is not a case of me saying that but really wanting a louder more outgoing guy, I am talkjng about boyfriends and long term relationships that I have actually had.
Guys who aren't shy I find intimidating, and guys who are loud or who talk too much are annoying because I can only handle so much audio input.

It's not that women don't like shy guys. It's that, in our culture, men are expected to make the first move so, if you are shy, they are unlikely to realize that you like them.

Pretty much same as this. I am rarely attracted to guys who are significantly more outgoing that me (and I'm not outgoing), but would also struggle to be attracted to a very shy person, because I wouldn't be able to "see" them, if you know what I mean.

What a guy is like around me matters. He can be quiet, shy, etc. in social settings, but if he doesn't open up to me it's going nowhere.

What about men who aren't shy but don't talk much and are soft-spoken?

Sounds great.

Extremely attractive.
Social people intimidate me, and I tend to not be attracted to people who aren't like me-
I feel that the more commonalities two people have, the better a chance something has of working.

My mother always says "Still waters run deep", meaning men who aren't talkative/macho-acting tend to be more pensive and thoughtful types. She was right.

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I don't think poorly of them, at besthat I think about quiet/shy guys is that they are too quiet/shy for me to form an opinion of them. If a shy guy is attracted to me I'm not going to know that if he's not going to let me know, and if he does nothing to get my attention then I probably won't really notice him. If a guy ask me out and doesn't talk much then I've got very little to base any attraction on.