"You'll find someone, I know you will."

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Dunno why but I do dislike it when exes say that or someone you found out wasn't single/interested.
I'm sure I'm not the only one but it seems like a cliche to say.
I've known it to happen many times.
I get that not everyone is like that and everyone is different but still... giving advice is a risque thing depending on the discussion taking place.

I hate that phrase too. So condescending.

It's condescending because not everyone finds someone. Especially if the person is like me.

It's a cliche, it's condescending, and it's absolutely false. A lot of people will not find someone at any point in their lives. From what I understand, this is simply another method, used mainly by women as they're the ones doing most rejecting, to 'shift the blame'. Tell a man he has a chance elsewhere and hopefully he'll leave you alone. Then the next person will reject him there, and send him elsewhere.

Remember that South Park episode where towns save themselves by sending the homeless to other towns with promises of change?
Here we have a comparable situation. Just promise people they'll find something elsewhere and hope they'll leave.
"Hey, don't raid Constantinople - the lands to the west have more loot than you can carry!"

Just stop talking to exes then. They are nothing but a part of the past, something you've left behind. Otherwise they wouldn't be exes.

It's worse when you've never had a relationship, and they use it all the time.

"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"
"No, you'll find someone. Not me though!"

It's a classic example of three-people-in-an-elevator syndrome. One of them farts, but they both deny it. You know it wasn't you, but the person who did fart in the elevator will also deny it, and you'll never know for sure who farted in the elevator. They'll blame each other, but you'll get no wiser - one of them is a liar, one of them probably thinks you're a liar, and one of them is dishing out the accusations to deflect. That person, specifically, is like someone saying that.

A cliche that says, in effect, "This feels awkward... just go away now."

I've been told that before. Even by women. It feels so condescending when you get rejected with that line. 'You'll find someone but not ME'.

I got told that years ago. Probably ten or more years ago. Still waiting for my first girlfriend and I'm nearly 30. How long does one have to wait to find this person?

It is not completely false. There is a good chance you will find someone you like. The real issue is whether or not that person will reciprocate.

I was chatting with someone last night, very briefly, about looking for a job. He said "I'm sure you'll find something that you like soon". How would he know? It's the same type of comment, it can be used in any situations really and it's always annoying. It's a throw-away term just like "sorry to hear that" or "I know how you feel". The sort of statement aspies have trouble saying because it sounds/is fake.