Anyone feel like they don't fit in with people their own age

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I go to college and it's supposed to be so tolerant and stuff but everyone makes assumptions about me even other so-called "misfits".

I don't fit in with anyone. I don't even fit in with the square pegs and I'm a square peg.

I'm not sure I fit in with anyone either.

I definitely do not fit in with my own age group (mid twenties), but I've never felt that I have at any age. I get along far better with children and older people. I often feel as if I was born in the wrong time or place, that I would have been much better in a more formal time (such as the 1930s when my Grandmother was my age) or in a more formal society, like Japan or Germany (although not, obviously, Germany in the 1930s!). Of course it is quite possible that I would feel equally out of place in any time or place and that I am on completely the wrong planet.

as a child i got on best with adults. as an adult i get on best with oldsters.

I generally don't really fit anywhere. I get along fine with other people most of the time, but do not share enough common ground with most people to befriend them. Thus, I end up with a mix of people of various ages who are either odd or who share similar interests with me.

I could name a million ways in which I'm different from most people my age. That actually sounds like an interesting list to write in my journal - I think I will.

I connect with older people. I feel like I was born into the wrong generation.

almost nobody my age listens to the music i like.

I've met one person my age that's familiar with the band Rush (one of my special interests, actually). It's sad.

I've found these responses quite interesting, as I too feel I get on better with people older than I am. I find those that are older more likely to be better enlightened and more mature, but you will still get your fair share of idiots in any age group. I don't connect with a lot of the current culture of my generation and the typical nightclub lifestyle of those my age definitely does not appeal to me. With my tastes, I would have been quite happy in the 80's.. If I could take the internet with me!

Yes I have extremely rarely (if at all) had friends my own age. I have had the knack all my life of forming friendships with people a significant number of years older or younger. That must be one of the reasons school was hell, even that early I knew I didn't fit in with people my own age, and even university was hell. I was out on Saturday night with a guy in his late 50's and a guy in his early 20's and I'm somewhere more or less centrally in between those two ages.

A similar phenomenon most certainly happens for me with location, or more accurately people's origin. That is if I live in a place, it's much more likely I become friends with people who come from abroad or at least elsewhere, or even if they are locals they have a background from elsewhere.

I get along great with those 10+ years older and especially 25+ years younger (in other words, babies and toddlers). Try as I might, I can't relate to those my own age outside of hockey. Of course, being great with children and being a tall single guy means some people make unfair assumptions and complaints about you behind your back without even making an attempt to get to know you. I think some of them are just jealous that someone who doesn't have kids has the ability to have children respect him so much that they will follow them to the end of the Earth.

Don't think I generally ever fit in particularly well with "people my own age".

As a kid, I generally "fit in with" and got along much better with older kids and adults. E.g. in elementary school, two of my best friends throughout most or all that time were about 2 or 3 years older than me.

As a teen+, from 15 or 16 through 24, most excellent friend (and also mentor - and only one of two friends I had in all of high school) - he was 18 years older than me. He died. I still miss him greatly. There were many times - years even - when he was the only one who "got me", and sometimes the only one who could reach me.

As an adult, I find it's not so much the age. Me and my head mostly get along with rather to highly intelligent, active, and interesting minds. Most others bore me. So, ... tends to be quite a range of ages - typically from twenty-something through fifty or sixty-something or so. I think my age skews who I'm with/around ("social" circles, and all that - and who is/isn't attracted - and/or repulsed(?) by me - and perhaps too, me to them, to at least some limited extent).

So, yeah, I think I mostly don't - and never particularly did - fit in much (if hardly at all) with "people my age". But I think it's more so a general statistical thing, rather than chronological age. The more interesting/intelligent/active minds have always more interested me - so when I was young, that was generally older - and now, it tends to be more spread out, and not particularly at all clustered around my particular age - nor will it likely ever be.

Will you please stop reading my mind I couldn't have said it any better. What you said is exactly the same way I feel. Glad to see I am not the only one. Younger or older are the people I get along with, and especially the fact about living a long time ago. For me it would be 1850's- 1950's America.

I am not big on all the technology like people my age. I don't need cell phones (only got one since I co-run a business), couldn't care less about Facebook, Myspace, Twitter or any of that. I just don't care. I don't need to read about people updating to everyone about what they do every second of the day. Nobody can have a thought provoking conversation, or really think. A lot of rudeness I notice. Technology has made a lot of my generation stupid for sure. That is why I love coming to this site. A whole lot of extremely intelligent interesting people that I can share views and learn from.

btw RUSH is flat out amazing. Have listened to them my entire life

I fit in mostly with my age group, but the immaturity of some of the people bugs me.

Not really, maybe people who maybe a few years younger/older but otherwise, nope.

It really saddens me when I read stuff online about how people think they're overrated. But that's a pretty generic "insult" for someone involved in the music industry. I'm sure every band's heard that one at least once or twice.