My teenage daughter has mental health issues

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My 13yo daughter has been suffering from depression, anxiety, disordered eating, self harm and now mild psychosis. She has been seeing professionals for 2 years and has tried 4 different medications with very little improvement.
My life is in turmoil - ive had to quit uni studies and have missed alot of work recently and she has missed most of the last term of school.
I have no discernable routine and she is staying with relatives whilst I work so that I can pay the rent.
She has been hospitalised twice in the last week for feeling suidical.
It just feels that I am running out of options - cant take anymore time off work, am running out of family members and friends to look after her.
Even the pathetic mental health system is saying she needs to improve before she can attend a more long term facility and she needs to stop utilising hospital as a safe place and try to develop her own resilience when life gets tough.
I feel that I cannot leave her unattended and need to talk to her all the time to make sure she will be ok.
I may be experiencing seperation anxiety from thinking of all the things that could happen if I am not there to prevent it.
I am also becomming depressed in the form of learned helplessness - everything I try fails due to unforseeable circumstances that just keep coming wave after wave. It has been a very challenging year. I have got ASD and and my ability to handle changes daily is particularly difficult like having to cancel going to work at the last minute due to her not being able to attend school and me not feeling comfortable leaving her at home all day alone.
I took her to work for 2 weeks and some as*hole complained to managers in head office. I have been told that I cannot bring my daughter to work with me anymore.
I am running out of options and out of coping strategies - everything is falling apart.
I need her to start to get better soon - the next step is me quitting work and going on welfare to care for her - which means that we will have to move to a cheaper area. Welfare will not even cover the rent.
Any advice?

Sorry, don't know what to advise, but my heart goes out to you.

My younger brother has been depressed a lot lately, so I have an idea how painful it can be to watch a loved one suffer.

I'm not sure if your in the US or not but if you are try applying for SSI or the state Medicaid program if you haven't already for her. There's a chance they would help cover the cost of her care like paying for her to see other psychs or to have a home caretaker for her. I'm sorry I'm not more helpful rite now

So they don't have something in between for her?

Sadly they don't have anything in between only stay overnight at emergency dept. anyway thanks for the replies everyone. Merry xmas

The only advice I can give is DO NOT GIVE UP... it sounds horrific, but there are a HUGE number of meds... They start with the broadest spectrum and work from there...

Believe it or not... the suicidal behavior and thoughts can be a sign of improvement... if she can fight through it.

There is hope...

Trying only 4 meds in two years is a very small number. It may help for her to start seeing another psych for a while if she's been having the same regular one for those two years. 2nd opinions can vary alot between psychs. I also want to stress that her problems may not be all solely due to a chemical imbalance in her brain. Depression, anxiety, disordered eating, & self harm are not that uncommon amongst teenagers or kids going through puberty unfortunately & those problems are usually somewhat related to or caused by issues going on or that happened in their life. Trying to figure out what her issues are related to & addressing them may be more helpful than medication.

Give her a task to do, give her a purpose. Stick a spade in her hand and let her go at it in the garden. Create some routine, something to look forward to, that is about all I can think of. Northern Hemisphere? ok maybe something else that will give purpose. Perhaps paint the bathroom, fix something in the house together etc etc.