My birthday is tomorrow. Do you hate your birthday?

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Brianruns10
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03 May 2013, 9:16 pm

I do. I really hate it. I don't like getting attention for something that I didn't do. I think parents should get recognized on birthdays. What does it matter what day I was born on? I made a point not to mention my birthday to my coworkers.

If I get recognized or get attention, I want it to be for the good works I did, not simply because I exist. Birthday's are BS anyways; the one day of the year people say they appreciate you, and then they go back to ignoring you the other 364 days of the year.

And the last thing I need to be reminded of is I'm a year old. 29 years old and there is so much I've yet to accomplish. Pathetic is what I am so far in life. So many people have done extraordinary things by now. Some have lived and died already, and accomplished more than my whole worthless life. I felt, surely, I would've found a woman by now.

I'm trying, trying so hard to be better, to fix all the things that are wrong about me. I'm going to keep on struggling at it. I'm going to do something special, do something that people will cherish. I'm going to give some gift back to the world. Or kill myself in the process.



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03 May 2013, 9:21 pm

Yup. We share a birthday and the same attitude toward it.

I hope you do well in the work you do.


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03 May 2013, 9:36 pm

I got married for the first time at age 52. it was my husband's first marriage at 58. never give up.



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03 May 2013, 10:30 pm

It's not what you do in life and who notices .. it's about what you learn along the way. You hate birthdays because you're ashamed of who you are. The lesson in your life is to learn how to love yourself and I hope someday, this will be the "extraordinary" thing you'll discover.

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03 May 2013, 11:39 pm

i used to love my birthday, now its just a another day.
every year i would invite a large group of people to help me celebrate and alot of them would cancel on me 10 minutes before they are supposed to come and i end up celebrating with my parents and my brother.

now that im getting older and realizing who my true friends are and realizing that i hardly have any friends. i decided that celebrating my birthday is not worth it.



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03 May 2013, 11:58 pm

Considering that this is the first time I've closely looked at your user name and had up until now felt that it was a comparison to that 70s movie Logan's Run, I don't really have anything to say. Because now there is nothing to say.

I wish I hadn't read it so closely this one time. Up until now....

I so had such a great remark too, based on the movie, Logan's Run.

Dammit!


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04 May 2013, 9:06 am

I wouldn't say I hate my birthday, but I know it's not all it could be either. And it's in 18 days (ugh). But, I'll treat myself to free food from wherever I want to get food from and buy myself at least one gift, as always.

Oh, and Brian? I know you might not want me to say it, but I will anyway - happy birthday. :)


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04 May 2013, 12:41 pm

This past birthday I had was my very last one ever. I'm not dying or anything (I hope) but I turned 49 and I refuse to celebrate turning 50. I've informed my whole family that from now on we are going to ignore my birthday, and no that's not a test to see if they will get me something anyway, I mean it about not celebrating it.

Although is 50 is the new 30 I've just turned 29. ;-)


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04 May 2013, 4:42 pm

I shall wish you a Hippy Bathday because that too happens once a year :)

Sometimes the gifts you give to the world are not big or exotic.
You might help someone with a smile or a cheerful remark, and brighten their day so they go on to find a cure for disease.
Or plant a tree which becomes a haven for an endangered creature.



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04 May 2013, 9:19 pm

After I turned 21, I hated my birthday. Because I'm getting older and have accomplished so little.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqmMmVvM2xE[/youtube]
Pretty apt song about birthdays.



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04 May 2013, 9:35 pm

At my age, I'm just happy to have another birthday!

No fuss, no bother, and no parties. Just hugs and chocolate, that's all I want.



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04 May 2013, 11:34 pm

Keni wrote:
I shall wish you a Hippy Bathday because that too happens once a year :)
You might help someone with a smile or a cheerful remark, and brighten their day so they go on to find a cure for disease.


Funny my dad suggests much the same thing. I told him how I had once dreamed of being an Olympic athlete, and was ashamed I fell short. He advised that perhaps I could achieve things through others, by teaching or otherwise helping others.

But for some reason, wrong as it may seem, this notion feels abhorrent to me. I am loathe to think of being a stepping stone to someone else's achievement. I don't want to sit forgotten while others rise to heights from my aid.

I want to accomplish something for myself. Something really special and wonderful for the world to cherish, so I can at last justify why I exist at all. There is so much I've failed at or fallen short...making friends, finding a woman to love. I'm in many ways only half a person. But when I accomplish my dream, I'll be whole. People will see that for all my deficiencies, I had within me the capability to create great good. People will finally understand me, and perhaps even accept me.

And then, I will celebrate. Until then. to hell with birthdays. I hate getting attention that is undeserved. And what exactly did I do to deserve the attention I get on my birthday? Nothing, and therefore, I do not want it.



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05 May 2013, 1:35 am

Speaking of birthdays, FB just informed me that one of my kids friends turns 24 today. The sad part is that he was killed in a car wreck three years ago. His page is still up and people do post sometimes on his wall. I actually just did. It makes no sense, but I did. He was a good friend to my kids and was over here a lot and was one of the sweetest, nicest boys in the group. He was in the army reserve and looking for a job when it happened. A few months before he died, my oldest daughter had a birthday and he couldn't buy her anything but he did buy her a card and wrote a very long letter on it. She still has it. He told her how nice she was and her fiancé was and how much her family means to him, and all that. We went to his funeral and I still have the little program from it on my bedroom mirror, along with a Mardi Gras mask he gave me.

I feel so bad for his mother because she lost his older brother to cancer about five years before this boy died. She has one child left now.


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05 May 2013, 6:21 pm

I think my birthday carries some sort of curse with it. No, seriously. It's March 15th and I guess what they say about the Ides of March is true because I've always had really horrible birthdays.

Besides the usual people forgetting it and stuff, there have also been natural disasters, people dying, etc. This year, I to got celebrate my 30th by having a spinal tap, having complications from it and spending a week on bed rest, alone in my apartment and scared of what was going on with me.

My parents had me as teenagers, it more or less ruined the trajectory of my mother's life and I've always felt she's resented me for it. Sometimes, growing up, it felt like my birthday was just an annual reminder that I shouldn't really be here. Bleh.



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05 May 2013, 6:27 pm

To blueroses, I would attribute it to you focusing on all the negatives and ignoring the positives that go on your birthdays. Lots of negatives happen on other days as well that may be worse than what happens on your birthdays. And natural disasters and people dying happen all the time.



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06 May 2013, 5:36 am

I don´t really hate it but I also don´t really like it. I just think it is useless to celebrate that you have survived one more year. What I really hate about birthdays are those peiople who want to be nice and friendly on this day and on the next days they just ignore yaou. They just pretend to be friendly. That´s terrible.
Oh, and I hate the hugs and congratulations, but this is only connected with the birthday and so the date itself is not so bad. It is just like the other days for me.


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