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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 4:03 pm    Post subject: "Don't Have to Invite Weird, Awkward Family Members& Reply with quote

I was talking with a coworker today about a baby shower I'm throwing for my future sister-in-law, and was asking about women only showers vs. what she wanted which was an everyone shower. He felt showers were for women only. I said I liked the idea of a dual shower (like she initially wanted), but that my budget simply did not allow for it.

At one point he said something like, "When we (he & his wife) got married, we paid for everything so we invited who wanted and not any of the 'weird or awkward family members'."

At first I just said yeah when it's your day you should invite who you want, but now I'm really thinking he was implying that they are essentially being forced to have me (b/c I'm hosting it) b/c I'm paying for it and they aren't. I mean, I know I'm awkward, but I don't need nor do I want anyone making digs at me.

Am I just being paranoid? I mean, it seemed like the rest of the conversation was quite pleasant, but more than anyone else I always feel like looking back his comments are meant sarcastically and quite meanly.

I should note, I'm feeling pretty bad about it now. I sorta want to go up and ask him if he meant me but honestly I know even if he did he'll likely just deny it.
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 4:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on this one. If someone dislikes you enough to essentially insult you to your face you usually know it without much internal debate.
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 6:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

<--- Wouldn't be invited to a baby shower, whatever that is, because he's weird and awkward.
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PostPosted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 8:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Its probably more a social positioning thing. He also called your brother and sis-in-law broke losers essentially. He feels bad that no one loved him enough to throw him a party, or his family criticized his wedding, or you sound better off financially, or something else that is about him feeling bad about himself.
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PostPosted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 9:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If the coworker is someone with whom you have an otherwise friendly relationship, it is unlikely that he would imply YOU were weird and awkward to your face--that would be insulting. The fact he said those words in your presence means he doesn't think of you that way. He was probably thinking of someone in his own family who was problematic for him, not about you at all.
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PostPosted: Wed Oct 30, 2013 8:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ignore it.

Get along with him, because he's a coworker.

But don't be friends with him, because he's an ass.
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