Sare wrote:
It's true that if someone shares something with you and you turn the conversation towards yourself that can be considered a bit narcissistic. That is where cognitive empathy skills kick in. Instead of sharing your similar experiences (because that is not what a NT person is after) you need to pay attention to the key words the person is using and paraphrase things back at them. I know that I sometimes feel the desire to share my similar experiences with others too, to say that 'yes, I understand what you're going through', but a NT will usually take this the wrong way.
I've come to the same conclusion myself, and it makes trying to relate to other people pointless. I can either relate to them in a way that's meaningful to me (as described above) – or I can lie and feed them the BS they want to hear, to make
them happy – but it's completely fake, so what's the point?