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13 Apr 2014, 4:32 am

I'm all new to this website even though I had looked at the forums for a few months now. It feels good finally getting an account on here. I'm 18 years old, going to junior college, and nearly all the times I feel like I can't keep an conversation to save my life. but, I do try. its hard, but, I try to understand how to with the others I'll run into life. :)



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13 Apr 2014, 4:45 am

Welcome to the forum :)



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13 Apr 2014, 6:21 am

Welcome! :)


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13 Apr 2014, 6:59 am

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13 Apr 2014, 8:09 am

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13 Apr 2014, 2:41 pm

Welcome to WP. :D



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13 Apr 2014, 5:10 pm

Hi, welcome :)
I think a lot of us struggle with that ;)


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13 Apr 2014, 5:49 pm

It's a learned skill which can be improved, most definitely.

Now, why do you think you're a bad conversationalist?

- Inability to relate to other people?
- Indifference to what other people have to say?
- Self esteem / Confidence issues?
- Something else?



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13 Apr 2014, 6:26 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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14 Apr 2014, 10:50 pm

odd2k wrote:
It's a learned skill which can be improved, most definitely.

Now, why do you think you're a bad conversationalist?

- Inability to relate to other people?
- Indifference to what other people have to say?
- Self esteem / Confidence issues?
- Something else?


TY all for making feel welcome upon this planet. Hopefully, its going to be a nice stay. :)

OT:My self esteem does take a hit when I seem to over think of what to say. When I have a conversation with some one. I can have a clear idea of what to say in my head ,and then just nothing comes to mind. I have these short pauses between conversations , and then nothing but the occasional word, " uh" comes to mind. I can talk clearly to my family without any concerns because they're aware of my communication troubles. Random strangers, not the best of luck.



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14 Apr 2014, 11:36 pm

Moostar wrote:
odd2k wrote:
It's a learned skill which can be improved, most definitely.

Now, why do you think you're a bad conversationalist?

- Inability to relate to other people?
- Indifference to what other people have to say?
- Self esteem / Confidence issues?
- Something else?


TY all for making feel welcome upon this planet. Hopefully, its going to be a nice stay. :)

OT:My self esteem does take a hit when I seem to over think of what to say. When I have a conversation with some one. I can have a clear idea of what to say in my head ,and then just nothing comes to mind. I have these short pauses between conversations , and then nothing but the occasional word, " uh" comes to mind. I can talk clearly to my family without any concerns because they're aware of my communication troubles. Random strangers, not the best of luck.


Just an idea, but you might try talking things out, by yourself, ahead of time so you have a bunch of things already saved up and rehearsed.
Then you just have pick the appropriate phrases & stories for whatver situation you happen to be in.
You'll get a lot better with pratice.



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15 Apr 2014, 10:29 am

You might have to improve on your self confidence before you can become a better conversationalist. Sure, there are countless "tricks" that can help you lead a relatively normal conversation, but in the end most people can sense nervousness and lack of confidence in another individual.



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15 Apr 2014, 11:23 am

Hey moostar,and welcome.i can relate to you,awkward pauses are the story of my life,and always made things worse.
As odd2k said ,confidence can help and i would add comfort to that.its easier with family not only cause they know but you are more comfortable with them because of it.
I too over think what i would say and often i forget or it gets all mixed up ,it comes out wrong.i often tell myself not to and try to let it out in the moment.it sometimes helps.