Leaving WrongPlanet

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In order to distance myself from someone, I need to stop posting on WrongPlanet. The support I get is good, and I enjoy helping people, but I can't change that I am not supposed to communicate with someone. This leaves me in a difficult situation if I think they are following everything I post. I have been somewhat out of bounds in what I have been saying. I don't really want to keep my distance, but I don't really have a choice. I am mandated to. This isn't healthy for me. I need to think about what is positive for myself, and worrying about a fractured friendship does not help me. I need to go. I do not want to imply that I don't miss her, damn me for saying that, but. I am in a confusing situation where I can't assume anything. I have to go, I can't cling to something that won't help me. My new therapist wrote some very concrete objectives for me to follow, and this is one of them. I have to accept responsibility for my actions here, so I have to either cut the BS or go. I have trouble with the former because that is what I need help with, so I guess the second is the better option.

A different therapist recommended this site long ago to me, but someone else sparked my interest. I need to quit hiding from my own motivations, I need to quit being in denial about them. I have problems with cognitive distortions, so I have to be much more strict with myself.

Do whatever you think is right [your decision does concern me though] Please feel free to pm me anytime. I have kids and grandkids your age, and in many ways I understand what you are going through.

please do not take your life. This too will pass. But it takes time.

Vicky

You can always come back when you are comfortable about it. I too need to get on with my life. I'm still uncomfortable about it though. People really screwed my head up.

People come and go, and maybe come back, all the time. Do what you need to do, but remember the door is open. The autistic community is not any one person.

TornadoEvil, I was already headed to sleep, but felt suddenly compelled to answer. I don’t know your situation, but I hope things sort out for you. My only advice is to be true, and face people, even the ones you have possibly hurt, with an eye in your soul and that view in mind. Along the way it might even help you to feel better. You were true no matter what others did and how they responded to you.

Something Isaac Newton said came to mind: we build too many walls and not enough bridges. My sleepy thoughts are on your way.

Maybe I should stick to what I know is 75% right for once. Let's try leaving WongPlanet alone for a while. That is what drives half of this world, according to some people. It requires that I can connect with someone first though. You can't deal with a person what's the point? Sex does not a relationship make.