Worried about my boyfriend

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Wasn't sure where to put this, so I hope this is ok.

I am worried about my boyfriend. He has been sleeping a lot, sometimes barely getting off the bed or couch for days. He always says he's tired. I think he might be getting depressed. We got in a fight about a week ago, he basically just snapped at me then left the house for several hours and didn't call or text. He apologized later and came back. He said he wasn't really mad at me, he was mad at himself, because he feels like he's not being productive (he's not, but I don't harp on him for it, and I try to be encouraging).

He did finally get to DES and his ACCCHS (Medicaid) card came in the mail today. He's been talking about getting some sleep meds (he gets insomnia, too, and his sleep schedule is really off). I kind of want to suggest he see a psychiatrist about what's been going on lately, whether it's depression or whatever. I think they might be able to help.

He's been on anti-depressants before but the doctors messed with his meds to much and never gave one time to work before switching him to something else, and he ended up just stopping them altogether.

Being Bipolar myself, I know how frustrating it is, all that time waiting and trial and error and crappy side-effects. I am finally stable on 2 meds for the past year or two and they keep me from flying off the handle, but I do still go through some pretty dramatic ups and downs. When I am feeling depressed, my boyfriend gets really frustrated with me for not being happy, I think he feels like I'm bringing him down or something.

I am doing better at the moment, but it hasn't seemed to help him at all. He doesn't work right now. He went to a job interview but hasn't heard back, and he keeps saying he's going to follow up, but he hasn't, and he hasn't applied for any more jobs.

I make barely enough to cover necessities between my part-time job and disability money. I also clean a few houses on the side. I am looking for a car right now, as I've saved just enough money from school for an old jalopy. That way I won't have to use his car and he won't have to stress about not having transportation.

I really want to help him, but there's only so much I can do, and it is getting increasingly difficult for me because while I really care about him and want to be with him, I feel like I am carrying all the weight in this relationship.