Urgent Warning to all Aspie females on here..........

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Paul92
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18 Aug 2014, 2:30 am

Hey guys, this is an article I posted on a few Aspie Facebook pages, I thought I'd post it here, as it's essential everyone knows.

The is an urgent message to all Aspie girls here.

There is a guy trawling around disability support websites, and disability support Facebook pages claiming to be a "Christian man" looking for a wife, with a disability.

Please for your own safety ignore them, I'm not sure on what his intentions are, but I've noticed a few things, that raise alarm bells.

He has a dodgy jewelery website registered to his name , and uses the email address, he mentions, in his posts.

He's also messaging blind girls.

So just be very careful girls, of who you speak to, and if they are dodgy, I'd suggest you block them ASAP, and inform the rest of us, so we are aware.

I'm going to see if I can get as much info on him as I can.

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18 Aug 2014, 2:57 am

You haven't presented any evidence against him to support your accusation, not even a screenshot of the jewelry e-shop that you claim it's dodgy, what if he was genuinely searching for a Christian wife with disability?

There were some members here who wanted a atypical/AS/Having-disability partner; maybe he thinks he's too ugly for non-blind girls or maybe he likes how blind people sense the world, I dunno.

I am not saying your concerns aren't real but If you are falsely harming his name and his business' reputation , then that wouldn't be cool, isn't it? It would have been better if you have taken your concerns privately to the mods.

Also women with disability are adults too (unless we are talking down syndrome/Mentally challenged) and can use their own sense of judgement.



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18 Aug 2014, 5:19 am

Evidence.......

Okay, you asked for it.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-h-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 422_n.jpg- The Message....

https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 3186_o.jpg - Blind Penpal Note

https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 0294_o.jpg - Google search on the number.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 4175_o.jpg - his Diamond Ring website registered under him.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 9793_o.jpg - Whois Registered to his home number - Proof.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-h-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 9443_o.jpg This is what the website redirects to, when you click on the link. - Extra proof the site is dodgy.

The Whois website gave me an address. A quick check, on the address reveals he was actually born in 1954, and as further proof, the phone number he gave matches the one on the property records.
https://fbcdn-sphotos-d-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 1007_o.jpg

onto a more detailed check
https://fbcdn-sphotos-d-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 5230_o.jpg
The one that's been messaging people is the bottom one, Age 59 note the other Clark Relatives, I'm assuming that's his wife and children.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-b-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 4919_o.jpg Real Estate Records, note Carl A Clark, and Lillian A Clark, as the owners - His wife

https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/ ... 9200_o.jpg - Real Estate Agent Directory - pretty self explanatory./

Before I post anything, I make sure I have the evidence, as I want to avoid making a twit out of myself. Even if it's not mentioned.


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21 Aug 2014, 5:15 pm

Caution is good for anyone you meet online. Catfishing and the like happens among adults all the time, and there are people who are just plain destructive.



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21 Aug 2014, 7:41 pm

Whilst your concern for the safety of female Aspies is very welcome, I don't think it's right of you to plaster somebody else's information on this thread.

Even if the person in question has left an information trail all over the web, why are you profiling this particular guy and posting links about him?

Even if this guy is some sort of dodgy person wishing to prey on vulnerable women, there are probably several thousand million other men out there who also want do the same. Why do you single out this one guy?

None of the links you provide are posts on this forum. Does he have an account here? If so, by all means report him to a mod if you think he's some kind of predatory catfish, but being a predatory catfish is not, as far as I know, some kind of crime.

If you want to protect females you could just issue a general warning, saying: "female Aspies: be aware! Some men are liars" or whatever.

Some general warnings about how certain groups of men behave might indeed be useful to young female Aspies reading this board.

I am older now, and am fairly confident I know how to stay on my guard, but when I was younger I was so naive that personally I would have welcomed if somebody back then had explained to the younger me that certain men use PUA techniques and mind games.

Because I'm so honest myself when it comes to just saying what I mean, I had absolutely no idea that there were people who manipulate others when flirting with them, so I never knew what was going on when attractive men were insulting me one minute, and then paying me compliments the next. Apparently that's a PUA technique, but because I didn't understand the concept of cruel manipulation, I never understood it when guys were mean to me one minute, and then nice to me the next. It made me very anxious and sad.

Now that I've been reading these boards and have read some of the PUA threads, I finally understand what some of those mean horrible guys were doing to me all those years ago. It makes my skin crawl that I was so stupid that I didn't know that they were deliberately playing manipulative mind games. :(

My point is that, rather than singling out this one individual, perhaps it would be more helpful if you made a thread listing the types of men that prey on vulnerable women, and how to spot them. I mean talking about what behaviour patterns to look out for.

"How to spot a catfish" and "how to tell when a PUA is manipulating you with the purpose of getting you into bed" might be two very useful things for younger naive Aspies to read.



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21 Aug 2014, 9:10 pm

Looks like he's a scammer.


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