The great monitor caper

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I have known this NT girl for a while. She is having a quarter life crisis. What am I doing, why is my life so terrible, I hate my job. That kind of process.

I show empathy, even though I have told her to cowboy up and face it.

I offered her a computer monitor for her to keep.

I'll offered to bring it over and hang out for a bit.

She said no, she wants to be alone.

I said ok

1 and a half hour later she asks if I can drop the monitor off.

I said I'll bring it

I ask if she'll be home, she said no. She's running errands



I am out doing my own thing and I get tasked to drive an hour and drop the monitor off. I don't get a thank you, an answer to a phone call or any kind of response or appreciation.

So I take my sweet time

While I'm driving I get a call. "Where's the monitor I needed it!?" I told her I'm taking my sweet time. She says "You did that just you can see me" I say Yes I did. I was less than a mile away when I get this call.

She said she won't answer the door or talk to me and I was fine with that. I leave the monitor on her door step and leave. Her whole house was dark, like no one was home. That was bizarre.

What do you guys think. I'm the evil one on this or is this just allot of fear going on.

You shouldn't have left the monitor.

The woman is not showing consideration for your schedule. You have to go out of your way to leave the monitor She sees you as a "means" towards her "end." In effect, she's "using" you. She has nerve enough to "tell you off" because you didn't leave the monitor--when you offered it to her from the goodness of your heart.

Idk, Kraftie. She made it plain she didn't want to hang out, that she just wanted the monitor while our man here had an agenda. She's not very nice, but dilanger could have been nicer about it as well.

Just my 2 cents...

Yes we are being mean to each other.

Time to cool off

In her mind she'll probably think it's entirely her fault. NTs aren't always as good at empathising as they're reputed to be. But if there's one thing I've learned from bitter experience is that you can't buy a woman's affections with gifts.

Yep....the boyfriend/girlfriend stuff of "flaming youth!"

I got so tired of being led around, her saying maybe then letting me down. It was time I took charge.

It's like dealing with children. When I say "maybe," I genuinely mean there's a possibility, however slight, that what they want MIGHT happen. I verbalized the fact that they SHOULD assume "maybe" means "no" until proven otherwise. We don't make promises we're uncertain we can keep, and our kids are aware that there are TONS of factors they won't immediately understand in "maybe" and not put faith in remote possibilities.

Indeed, "maybe" more often precipitates a "no." Our kids are well aware of that.

Unfortunately, same applies to adult behaviors as well.

She doesn't want to see you at all & expects you to go an hour away to drop off a monitor & gets mad that you don't do it quick enough. It sounds to me like she's just using you & you'd be much better taking your monitor back & moving on.