Social isolation and how to help

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Just last night I had made my significant other very upset and that was not my intention but sadly I did. We had not fought like this in a long time and last night my anger got the best of me and I was wrong. I admit to my mistakes and I regret them. Now my partner wants to isolate and not talk to anyone or do anything. I'm trying my hardest to help and fix things but I need advice on how to help. I just want my partner to feel better. I hate it when he's sad. Plus it's my fault, I've tried all I could but I'm not gonna stop trying until he is okay. I love him very much and seeing him like this is heartbreaking. Please help.

He may just need to be left alone so he can sort out the details in his own way. As long as he knows you care about him and are concerned but willing to let him have his space then he should come around. I would only worry if it prolongs into a long period of time.

Yeah, when a guy needs space just give it to him.
He'll work out what he needs to.

Men and women are different.
Try treating him the opposite of how you treat your girlfriends, you'll get lots closer to what he needs.

Seriously.

Well he has autism and it's not really that he needs his space it's just that when he's really upset and sad he doesn't want to do anything or talk to anyone. I want to know how to help him out of that isolation state.

I feel the same way. It seems when I try to reach out, I get the impression that I'm just a basket case and I can't help myself. I think they get disgusted, and just ignore me. So it is natural for a guy to isolate from society for a while. Thank god we have the internet for our knowledge. If it weren't for this site, I would likely be lost.

not all guys are like what 1401b said.

I do what you describe cause I feel bad and like I should leave people alone. I won't even use my voice while alone when down like that. I don't really want space, but withdrawing feels like what I should do. if it was me they'd have to force their way in and hold me maybe watch movie.

but everyone is different. and what might work for me might not for him.

I can relate.

I was diagnosed at 50 last fall and have been struggling with dealing with the mess my meltdowns created. I have found what these two very intelligent Aspies have to say is very helpful in understanding where the meltdowns come from and how to begin to reduce them. What they say can help begin a dialog between you and loved ones.

They have a channel on YouTube called Asperger Experts. Search for "The Aspergers "Sensory Funnel"" if the lin below doesn't work.

Best wishes to you.

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