Is it a bad thing to be a 'load-off' for obsessive talkers?

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19 Sep 2014, 6:00 am

When with friends and family I talk just as much as I listen.

However there are some people I will listen to more than I talk to them.

I've noticed that, sometimes, I end up being a 'load-off' for obsessive talkers.

I think that aspies aren't the only one's who like to go on and on and on and on and on about something - there are certain NT's who enjoy talking about themselves and things about their own life and manage to go and on and on.

This is what i've ended up becoming. I let N.T friends 'load-off' on me. If they want someone to go on and on with about nothing and mindless meaningless stuff no one would care about, I will listen - or fake listen, or half listen. Whatever.

I'm actually fine with it.

Is it a good or bad thing?



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19 Sep 2014, 8:09 am

I think it is a good thing. You are adapting yourself to different people and different situations and assessing what is needed/what will help the friendship grow.

I hope your talkative friends will let you talk, too, if you want to. It would be selfish of them to never listen.

Often, one person is more talkative than the other in a relationship.