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19 Sep 2014, 9:58 pm

My sort of BF that I have gotten in touch with awhile ago who I was best friends with for 3 years responded to a brief mention that I made about writing a fanfiction by saying more than once that he would "really love" to read it. The only one I ever wrote I did not finish and it is gone forever by now. But, there is this show we both like that I could write a fanfiction about. The thing is that this boy has no social skills whatsoever and I don't think he gets that I am sexually interested in him. We used to throw innuendos into our banter occasionally but when he did it was really awkward and barely made sense. He also expressed several years ago an implication of sex being gross or disturbing. I had agreed at the time but I don't feel that way anymore and he might still? I have really been dying to write an NC-17 fanfic but I am wondering if I were to write one and let him read it, if he would "get the hint." I think he might have Aspergers too. I'm not sure. I am afraid that if I send him a racy fanfic that instead of being interested, he might get embarrassed or think that I am a slut. I don't think he's ever "been with" a girl, that I know of, and I haven't "been with" a guy either. I certainly don't want to scare him away by making him think that I am a tramp, but I also don't want to write a super innocent and benevolent fanfic that makes him think I still only think of him as a friend or that I have no interest/experience either. Please help!! !! !


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19 Sep 2014, 10:28 pm

Girlwithaspergers wrote:
My sort of BF that I have gotten in touch with awhile ago who I was best friends with for 3 years responded to a brief mention that I made about writing a fanfiction by saying more than once that he would "really love" to read it. The only one I ever wrote I did not finish and it is gone forever by now. But, there is this show we both like that I could write a fanfiction about. The thing is that this boy has no social skills whatsoever and I don't think he gets that I am sexually interested in him. We used to throw innuendos into our banter occasionally but when he did it was really awkward and barely made sense. He also expressed several years ago an implication of sex being gross or disturbing. I had agreed at the time but I don't feel that way anymore and he might still? I have really been dying to write an NC-17 fanfic but I am wondering if I were to write one and let him read it, if he would "get the hint." I think he might have Aspergers too. I'm not sure. I am afraid that if I send him a racy fanfic that instead of being interested, he might get embarrassed or think that I am a slut. I don't think he's ever "been with" a girl, that I know of, and I haven't "been with" a guy either. I certainly don't want to scare him away by making him think that I am a tramp, but I also don't want to write a super innocent and benevolent fanfic that makes him think I still only think of him as a friend or that I have no interest/experience either. Please help!! !! !


I think that you're trying to use metaphor to attract someone who may not be capable of understanding metaphor on that level. I know that I would need to be told flat out if a girl were interested in me. I was once given 2 cd's full of love songs that she had put together especially for me and I didnt get it :? You might want to write a fanfic about your lives. It strikes a happy balance. Let him know the characters are both you and then that overcomes the literal interpretation issue.


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