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LokiofSassgard
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21 Sep 2014, 3:57 pm

I mean in a sense where a friend spills how they feel to you, maybe about being abused or suffering depression, and you just feel helpless towards them? I was just wondering if it was common for people with AS or Autism. I thought it might have a lot with our lack of social skills and the fact that we don't know what to say to cheer the person up. D:

What do you think? Do you ever feel like this?


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21 Sep 2014, 5:30 pm

When someone tells you something horrible, there's very little anyone can say, AS or NT. In such situation, it's always the same standard answers... I'm sorry for you... I hope it gets better... blablabla. No need to feel anymore hopeless then anyone else, as we'd all feel hopeless unless we have the same experience in our own lives.



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21 Sep 2014, 7:30 pm

LokiofSassgard wrote:
I mean in a sense where a friend spills how they feel to you, maybe about being abused or suffering depression, and you just feel helpless towards them? I was just wondering if it was common for people with AS or Autism. I thought it might have a lot with our lack of social skills and the fact that we don't know what to say to cheer the person up. D:

What do you think? Do you ever feel like this?


Honesty is the key.

I say " I wish I could understand what that was like for you but nothing in my experience helps me to relate to what you have gone through. I wish that had not happened to you. "

They appreciate the validation.



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21 Sep 2014, 11:07 pm

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21 Sep 2014, 11:52 pm

I know exactly how you feel. A lot of the time I don't know what to say.... I usually end up just hugging them to show that I do care. Action speaks louder than words :) :D



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22 Sep 2014, 12:16 am

Yes, that happens to me too. I still remember one time a couple of years ago when I met up with two acquaintances and one of them started crying because she was upset about something. I had no idea what to do and I just sat there quietly for an hour or so and freaked out on the inside (due to not knowing what to do plus being overloaded) while the other acquaintance comforted her. I felt so useless. The other person knew exactly what to do and she said all the right things and I could never figure out how she did it.