Help me talk to my boyfriend

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Okayyyy it's not going great between us and we get into REALLY a bad fights, a few months ago we were really close to splitting up and he said something to the effect of "what is wrong with you,like ~mentally~?" and went on about how something had to be the matter with me!! So what I'm trying to get at is that like he's scared me away from taking to him about that sort of stuff but I want to because he's the only person I can really talk to. I'm not sure how to go about it, I know maybe he might've just said those things "in the moment" but I am scared he's gonna throw it in my face. How do I talk to him?

Please be nice

Take some time before approaching this issue again if this is something that needs to be solved. there is no sense in approaching this while either of you is still fuming about it. Keep communication open and continue doing things together. This is taking into account the belief that your boyfriend is normal and is able to listen to you.

Yeah, it's likely that what he said was in the heat of the moment. I think what's more concerning is the arguments you've been having. What are they about? Sit down with each other, create an open atmosphere, and together reflect on the fights, recognize their root, and resolve them with effective dialogue.

I don't see any point of being in a combative relationship. At this point any 'revelations' on possible ASD will just add fuel to the fire I would guess, so no I wouldn't recommend bringing it up.

Stop and fix the combative part, and if it can't be fixed, move on. I do not know where the fighting is coming from, whether he or you, but regardless, its not a mature or reasonable way of dealing with things.

People say things "in the moment" all the time. I've been guilty of that on many occasions.

I second, third, fourth, whatever the above advice.

You need to have a positively-derived commonality with any person whom you are in a relationship with.

Ahhhhhhhhh thank youuuu, I appreciate it comments but can't really articulate it?!