dating sites and embarassing situations

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Met(saw in Asda XD) a girl I saw on ok cupid when I filed my abortive profile. At least she smiled at me indicating she too saw my profile (or saw that I visited her profile and it was a "caught you!" snigger lol). I just stared back blankly . Apparently (I quote) my personality is great and girls want me so bad which equates to a few visitors in the space of however many hours lolol. I burst out laughing everytime I think of it. Does me no good if this is the case because im incurably weird XD And proud lol
Im in a small uni town so its likely that my profile has been seen a few times. Anyone else have similar stories. What do you think about being brutally honest about your life on dating profiles. I dont mean telling people you have asperger's as that means very little to most people. I mean giving a blow by blow account of how left of centre you are!

Edited due to clumsy wording

Last edited by Ectryon on 28 Sep 2014, 1:32 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I think people would tend to view it as "trying too hard."

I think you're misinterpreting what im saying. Im saying literally being yourself. If I were to make a bizarre profile i'd only need to say that I spend all day making music meditating staring at faces in trees pondering weird optical illusions and navigating existential crises. This is true and as profile taglines go bizarre XD

Ok. Then it wouldn't be deliberate, though. Assuming it comes naturally to be yourself and requires no deliberation.

Semantics lol. It would be deliberate as in "done consciously and intentionally". You're making a conscious choice to present your life as is as opposed to the alternative. I worded this really really badly i'll go back and edit!

i feel so stupid and pathetic about listening to dating sites. this is my final reaction to them. f**k off internet dating!! !

No, I should have remembered that "deliberate" has more than one meaning.

I have done that with my profiles. Don't get many messages. I am sure that it seems off-putting to most of the people in my available dating pool, but I don't know how else to avoid misunderstandings and incompatible expectations.

The thing I hate most about internet dating is that it brings out your most shallow character traits. In the world of online dating you have everything quantified and given in percentage figures. You see a still image which conveys only the most basic level of physical beauty and you have meaningless profiles. I dont necessarily care about how shallow it makes other people because you can use that to your advantage but it distresses me when I observe how my thinking patterns change by being presented with a series of women to "choose from". It's like being at a market. I always feel slightly guilt ridden afterwards.

yeah that's why i say screw meeting people online. you can see them at every restaurant. maybe clubs. or the disco lounge. maybe the museum or just going to a fest and making good friends. this internet does nothing of that. it's like choosing what you want and not let the moment happen by itself. i cannot believe we still have that issue in america. i am very disappointed. what the f**k have we all turned into? robots checking the global line of information and making it our home. this has to end.

Ah but here's the rub. Im a student living in halls. Its fresher's week where everyone bar none is doing what students (apparently/so ive observed) love to do. Even with all that happening I havve no idea how to go about getting a girl. I could go to a club but then i'd stand there feeling pi**ed off because the music is too loud and idiots keep bumping into me. If I stand in the corner i'll be invisible. I dont drink or do drugs and I hate club music so the music will just be abrasive and deafening. My only course would be to get a "wingman" but none of the people I know at uni even go to clubs. Dating sites or events are kind of the avoidant personality's last best hope. Like Babylon 5 and just as forbidding and alien.

Drink and drugs don't help us anyway. Our problem is we live in our heads not "in the moment", as the NTs call it. When we take drugs we just get a different experience in our head. We're still not thinking in that sort of communal, "in the moment" type thinking, because we find it difficult and horrible. That's the main reason I won't find anyone.

My thoughts exactly.

Free advertising sites like Craig's List aren't that much of a help either.