Hi,
I was reading these pages a whole lot several years ago, but stopped coming when we decided our son was not an aspie. Were we in denial? I don't know -- even now. One psychiatrist said he was, but she only spoke once with him and based her decision on what we told her about him. Another psychologist a couple years ago said he wasn't -- flat out.
But he's having trouble in school, with the kids claiming he's weird. He can't handle it when he loses, but especially if there are ambiguous rules or rules are simply not followed. Sometimes he blows up at the other kids and has a meltdown (he's now 12). He freaks out about math problems and is unable to multiplication with two digit numbers, or large division problem. He can usually figure it out after a while, but he seems to look for patterns of how the answer is found, rather than comprehending what addition and subtraction are. He hasn't eaten fruit since age 1.
Maybe when I write these things, you say "you're in denial, dude."And maybe I am. But I truly feel he connects with me and with family members he feels safe with. On the other hand, even his friends sometimes get the raw edge of the deal. He's fascinated by machines and comptuers and will ignore other friends if he can keep playing or watching the screen.
Anyway, long enough for now. We're going to a psychiatrist tomorrow, finally, because of some worrying meltdowns at school. I won't go into my worry that we've failed by not seeing a doctor sooner. On the other hand, I think we're super accommodating, we love him to bits and are as supportive as possible. But if he is asperger's, we have no idea when we're supposed to tell him. That's my main question that i guess i should post elsewhere...
19 Oct 2014, 4:43 pm
