I was right to follow my own advice and not get attatched...

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Sweetleaf
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21 Oct 2014, 11:03 am

Yes, yes I was...as i met up with a dude a few times figured there was some mutual interest, maybe there was but apparently this dude is potentially int rested in someone else and doesn't think we can have anything onging, said we could meet up again but not really sure the point of that if he's not planning on seeing me anymore. But just glad I didn't get attached and set myself up for disappointment so there is that. I guess I don't have to worry about trying to figure out how to change my OKcupid profile to reflect the status of seeing someone since I am not now I guess.


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21 Oct 2014, 11:22 am

I'm sorry things didn't go the way you hoped they would.

I would say not getting attached is all-around good advice for pretty much everyone. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. There is nothing wrong with being emotionally involved. The trouble with most relationships, IMO, is that we are so totally given to our emotional states that we miss more objective signs as to whether one current relationship or another is really what's best for us. You really do have to step back, switch off the emotional blinders for just a moment, and assess what's REALLY going on. The less attached people can become to one single person, the more likely you're going to find a person who suits you best. At that point, you CAN let yourself become attached and let emotions run as wild as you want (within reason) because it's a "safe" relationship. It's getting there that's tricky.



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21 Oct 2014, 11:32 am

Yeah I tend to agree with that...and its all good it didn't work out but didn't have it in my head it would for sure anyways, kinda disappointing because I did like him quite a lot but hey stuff happens. I am sure there are plenty of other guys that would be interested, at least in initially meeting up anyways. Not to mention perhaps I can find someone who likes to go out and do things more since me and this last dude mostly just went and hung out in his apartment the times we hung out when I kinda like getting out and doing stuff


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21 Oct 2014, 2:25 pm

I'm sorry. I was really hoping it would of worked out for you but I'm sure you'll meet the rite guy at some point.


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