Being triggered by having your past used against you?

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VioletYoshi
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22 Oct 2014, 1:24 am

This has happened to me often online, I just get really upset and hopeless because I can't change my past. I don't understand how bringing up a person's behavior from years ago has to do with the present. Just to say a person has a pattern of victim playing?

Perhaps some people are more vulnerable than others, why do we blame them instead of offering protection? Why is it so popular to silence the voices of victims trying to see there won't be more victims? No one chooses to be a victim, it's not fun crying for 2 days after hearing the only way to get help is from a group of people who might try to harass you. What's strange is people who aren't abusers trying to silence victims of abuse. Or calling a desire to help others an obsession, like caring for others is a nasty habit. I don't understand it at all.



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22 Oct 2014, 1:35 am

My advice:

Stop talking about your past. That is how people recognize you no matter what name you post by. If you post by a different name again and don't bring up your past or personal issues, no one will know it's you and won't bring up your past. It will be like a fresh start. There is a saying, what you post online stays there forever.

Yes it sucks how we can all make mistakes in the past or do certain behaviors and regret what we did and then we change but yet it's there forever for people to see when they do a search so they think you are still that same person. It has also affected people getting jobs in the future. I just say to everyone do not use the same email address you do online when looking for a job. Use a different username for each forum you go to so that way you avoid witch hunts. Don't tell anyone in real life what your user names are online.


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22 Oct 2014, 5:05 am

Yeah; I experienced all this too. I know it hurts when people exclude you from things because when I got bullied online too, they tried to de-rep me, spread tales and just generally acted abusive. I think some people you got to encounter online are not who they appear to be.