People who trigger a shutdown/meltdown

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Does anyone else know of a particular person who just seems to get under your skin and drive you to the point of a meltdown or shutdown every time you are around them? I don't know many people who get to me in this way but there is one I am aware of for sure, my husband's 11 year-old son. I like most kids and have four of my own, but this kid is just highly annoying, even his dad is bugged by his ways when he's here. It's as though he read up on what drives most aspies crazy and makes a point of doing them all. For one thing, his mooching mother foists him over on us, acting like I should have no problem supporting her kid, who eats like an army I might add, when we can barely afford to feed ourselves, and we live in a tiny apartment to make it worse. The kid shows up and I already start going into a shutdown, that's how bad it is. He is a non-stop chatterbox who insists on talking all the time and I work from home, so when he comes I have to lock myself in my dark, windowless bedroom just to get any work done. He makes annoying noises like a snorting sound because of his sinuses and he coughs a lot, both are sounds that bug me. He also plays on my OCD traits by being messy and doing things like leaving underwear on my towel, or using my towel, even worse! There is very little for him to do here so he sits outside the bathroom door, which torments me with my phobia about using washrooms when other people are within earshot. It also heaps extra stress on me as I see our groceries disappear and I have no idea how we can afford more so soon. Last time he stayed here I had had it, I explained to him that my own kids have to live with their dad because I am too poor to support them, so it's unfair that I get stuck supporting him and that it is his mother's responsibility not mine, my husband does give this woman money too, when he can. Since then thank heavens he has not been around, let's hope it stays that way because I feel like I need to be committed when that kid comes here! Other intensely annoying behavior includes following me from room to room and watching me put on my makeup, touching my hair (a big no-no with me), and I know it sounds funny, but his feet are really, really stinky and the smell drives me nuts! Does anyone else know of someone specific who just seems to push all their buttons like this?

My mom. She's always pissing me off and driving me nuts. She's always bothering me when I'm in the middle of something, but usually it's not enough to cause me meltdowns. She does cause outbursts that make me knock stuff over or throw things. D: It hasn't occurred lately because she's been really good about it. She talks a lot and has a habit of repeating herself to.

My mum and my sister.

My mum has a habit of clearing her throat constantly which drives me nuts. She also constantly feels the need to ask me to do things because she doesn't like me being in my room.

The reason I am in my room most of the time is because of my sister's noises. She always breathes really loudly, and she likes to physically follow people. So I'm left with a heavy breathing noise constantly behind me, which drives me crazy. That, combined with my mum constantly clearing her throat, leaves me in a near rage that has me running to a quiet room. Even in my room I am going crazy because I try not to hear the noise of my mum clearing her throat from the living room.

To top it all off, my mum spoils my little sister rotten, so my sister always feels like she can dictate what I do. She's 6 and I'm 24. She tries to tell me what's right and what isn't. Whatever I tell her, she says "no" even if she knows she's wrong, just because she wants to feel that she's right and I'm wrong. I know she's only 6 but it drives me crazy and I don't want to be next to her, so I always leave the room when she enters. Then my mum accuses me of hating my sister, and she tells my sister "don't worry, she only does it to you but she doesn't understand".

I could avoid this house altogether, but I have to come here a lot to take care of my brother who has very severe meltdowns and I'm the only person who can understand him/take care of him. Otherwise I would rarely visit here.

I don't have meltdowns though - only shutdowns.

My husband's father causes me so much anxiety that he has become a trigger for me. I cannot speak to him on the phone or be around him without having a panic attack. Even knowing that my husband is on the phone with him will make me a little anxious. I'm not sure that that particular case is really about sensitivities so much as just the fact that he is a completely closed off person with no regard for anyone else's point of view, emotions, etc.

at my workplace I was surrounded by button-pushers.

One of my current housemates. He is a complete total jackass, ADHD or no. With some of his stunts, I can see why his wife left him, he's been through several jobs, and he got a dishonorable discharge from the Army. He's been nabbed by the cops for traffic violations, (and if he doesn't get his car inspected, he's going to be nabbed again. He has taken my car, with permission, but never puts gas in it. It got to the point I started taking him where he needed to go, and it was pure hell trying to get money out of him for both gas and and my time. Yet he'll raise hell if the volume on my tv, stereo, iPhone or iPad is way too loud for him. It has gotten to the point that I'm sick and tired of cleaning up after him.oh, he cleans his room, but little damn else.

The last time he pissed on me, I walked out of the house, got in my car, and went to visit the guy I used to live with, for about 6 hours. I was pissed off enough that I was ready to ask this guy for some Ativan, so I could spike my house mate's beer or lunch for the next day, pack him in a shipping crate, and ship him to the Cabrini-Green housing projects in Chicago. He wouldn't even last 2 seconds in that project. (I know, since I had a 1986 Plymout Reliant stolen from a valet garage at the Hyatt Regency at the corner of Michigan and Wacker while I was attending a convention. Those of you who know me know that I'm anti-psychotropic drugs, but this guy pissed me off so badly I was ready to ruthie him.

Wow, I have never had anyone in my life I had that kind of reaction to.

If I was to see certain people from high school and college it would probably trigger one.

My mom and dad can trigger one at times, but it's not fair to say they are to blame, I wouldn't cast that much at my parents since I love them both.

I knew someone who used to be my friend. If they got annoyed with me, they would push me and corner me. If I couldn't respond, they'd try to force me to but I'd shut down instead. I wouldn't be able to communicate at all, even with sign language or by writing down what I wanted to say. I'm so glad that I don't speak to them any more.

My parents especially my mom used to trigger meltdowns aLOT. It's gotten better as I learned to start tuning out negative things they say to or about me. I'm aLOT better off sense I moved out to be with my girlfriend.

I live with my Mom and Nan and they make me really frustrated, my Mom especially. My nan is racist and they are both homophobic so I can't even admit i'm Pansexual. They don't believe depression or anxiety or other mental disabilities are real and have said since I can remember to stop pretending and doing it for attention. I try to explain to her why I have trouble socializing and stuff but she keeps making up ridiculous excuses to explain so she doesn't have to admit i'm autistic. And she is an angles person so she will say one thing but then change it to her convenience. Like if i have the flu but don't want medication because it isn't 100% necessary "you have to listen to the doctors they went to school for this they know whats right", to me being diagnosed as autistic " doctors dont know what they're talking about these days, they probably paid someone to write their exam for them anyway". And I have SPD specifically with sound, and she yells ALL THE TIME, I swear she doesn't have an inside voice. She will yell at me for everything even if I do everything she asks, she also tries to provoke me by saying things where i don't have a choice but make it worse. like if i dont say anything she'll yell at me for not answering and if i do answer i have no choice but to say something that she'll yell about.She also forces me to do things when i can't. like if i'm having a really bad day she'll force me to go into a noisy crowded mall or store and if i have a panic attack in the bathroom she just acts like its normal or something and tells me to stop being a baby. I think she gets comfort from me being upset or something.