Playing around on OkCupid

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OK, so I got interested in the usefulness of OkCupid for neurodiverse people. Not that I'm really interested in a new relationship, but I can still play around to see how it works.

So I first registered (without changing my profile settings), and answered all 170 questions in the survey making sure I answered the sex-related one's indicating I had no interest in sex, and that a match shouldn't put high importance to this either (that was truthful, not an experiment). I didn't write a resume, and I didn't download a photo. Then I clicked on some matches. Not very convincing, at all. The girls weren't that bad, but no neurodiverse female in sight, and most seemed overly typical (and thus not very interesting). If I really wanted a date with this information, I'm sure chances would not be great. Also, it was not evident in any profile that OkCupid really had selected only people that didn't like sex. I would have needed to find this out myself. In addition to that, all my matches practically required monogamy and me being single.

Then, I changed my age preference from the default 33 to 92 years interval to 25 to 50. This resulted in some young matches, but none of them had my age in their own age preference, so this was clearly a bug in their system. This failure makes one suspect that other things are not checked properly either.

Next I decided to change my profile settings somewhat to narrow down things to see if this works in finding neurodiverse females. I filled-out all the profile settings, and specifically selected "married", "non-monogamy", don't require the female being single, and excluded short dating and sex-only (selected "friend" and "long dating" only). Then I looked at the matches again. The new matches were clearly a lot more interesting with several suspected neurodiverse females, and a few PhDs and other people that could be interesting for a friendship.

I think this shows that it is possible to find some type of neurodiverse females at OkCupid, provided you have somewhat divergent preferences and really express them also in your answers.

Edit: Checking some other things now. Put up the presentation now, and it is pretty unusual, I think (the intention is that it should be). I start by claiming I'm neurodiverse, asexual and polyamory. Of course, I say nothing about autism, as that has no relevance and would not attract positive attention. Still no photo, and I'm not sure if I want to put one up either.

You are so cute.

Forget it. I'm not gay.

Neither I, but yet your experiments are cute.

OK, so it took almost half a year for a woman with a good match score to PM me on OkCupid, even in the absence of a photo. I'm afraid I won't PM her back because I really don't like her preferences. So much for the matching algorithm.

There's nothing wrong with the OkC matching system, that is, it works as it is supposed to. The problems you were having were a misunderstanding of how it works.

How could it work when a female that has a 79% match score, and 0% enemy score, has a presentation that I find rather incompatible with my own answers? Sure, there are a few things that do match, but the specific polyamory preferences that I selected in my answers are in strong conflict with her presentation. She doesn't appear to be neurodiverse either.

OTOH, I've got suggestions that very likely were neurodiverse girls, and some would have been really interesting if I actually wanted to meet somebody.

how are you able to tell they are neurodiverse?

There are more than 170 questions to improve matches. I've answered 555 so far. Oddly, for answering questions, the mobile site is far superior to the normal browser version.

With how many things I marked mandatory (as far as the other persons answers), I was very surprised it was still able to find some decent (90%+) matches. Guess there are plenty of other unusual people out there.

By analyzing their presentation. If they mention traits I know are neurodiverse I can assume they might be neurodiverse. The photo itself also can give an indication. If they have a typical NT-type smile I can be pretty sure they are not neurodiverse (or are trying to fake being NT, which is not much better).

I think the level of the matches depends on how typical you are. I seldom get anybody that has more than 80% match score as a suggestion, but then I've provided some very atypical answers to their questions. I think I've more or less answered everything.

you get suggestions?

Of course. Doesn't everybody get suggestions from OkCupid?

It shows you people you might like, but it doesn't mean you will. I met my girlfriend on Okcupid and our match was like low 70% but we go together like rammalammadoobop!

not anymore, thought they just got rid of that. missed getting the 3 women a week they suggested. haven't had that in months. deleted okcupid off my phone yesterday. its just too depressing.


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you're really lucky.

I've been using OKCupid for almost 3 years now...and so far I've only received 4 messages TOTAL: a reply from a decent match letting me know she wasn't interested, an obvious scam asking me to trade pics, a heavy smoker ( not remotely my type ) and a woman simply telling me I should smile in my profile pics ( only reason I wasn't is because my Samsung Galaxy Centura has only an outer camera and is very awkward to use for selfies, which is the only way I can get new pics of myself atm ). If I don't find somebody I'm interested in who's willing to give me a chance in the next 2 months I give up....