Romantics are no longer wanted or needed anymore!

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25 Oct 2014, 10:05 am

I have been a young romantic but was destroyrd completely to the point of fear of wanting to go on always searching for a purpose for true love only resulting in fruitless results! Romance is a thing of the past these days and chivalry is dead and frowned upon!


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25 Oct 2014, 2:46 pm

I don't like the whole "Ladies first" thing due to my gender issues. I'm also not a feminist. I hope that well meaning guys realize this about me one day. There are other ways to be romantic, like a special candlelight dinner cooked for your partner, a night looking at the starry sky, or a kiss after a date. There's also dinner and a movie, or a hand in hand walk down the beach. I may be transgendered, but I've learned about different types of romance by watching movies and observing people.


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25 Oct 2014, 5:06 pm

Romance and chivalry aren't dead at all. But they are WAY overblown and overvalued. What needs to hurry up and die is our modern conception of dating. It doesn't work.



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25 Oct 2014, 7:15 pm

You can treat people nicely without being chivalrous, you know.


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25 Oct 2014, 9:09 pm

I'm wondering what chivalry and romance means to you.



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25 Oct 2014, 11:33 pm

The_Underground_Man wrote:
I'm wondering what chivalry and romance means to you.


I'm also very curious.


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26 Oct 2014, 11:14 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
You can treat people nicely without being chivalrous, you know.


Yeah, and people will ALWAYS find a way to twist it into sexism.



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26 Oct 2014, 1:06 pm

CynicalWaffle wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
You can treat people nicely without being chivalrous, you know.


Yeah, and people will ALWAYS find a way to twist it into sexism.

Two things:

1. Don't hang out with those people.
2. Tune them out.

I'm only going to try to be the most decent person I know how to be. I don't need someone screaming "sexist pig!" every time I hold a door for someone, and I'm certainly not going to let it affect me any time it does happen. Look, just concentrate on being a good person and let the haters hate.



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26 Oct 2014, 1:07 pm

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26 Oct 2014, 2:07 pm

Seems rather pointless to me, sure be nice to people but just because they are female I won't go out of my way in a very obvious way. Like running forward to open a door or some silly crap like that or fighting off a dragon. Unless the dragon had some good loot and helping the damsel in distress is just bonus.

As far as romance its all about being creative and the person knowing that you put effort and thought into it is what matters. I wouldn't try any of the ordinary crap unless they were into it but I doubt I would be into an ordinary person.


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26 Oct 2014, 8:07 pm

What I have observed- if they aren't into romance around me, they aren't into me. If they aren't interested in intimacy around me, they sure aren't interested in me either. And what a person is into will indicate dealbreakers and common interests and whether we will have a shot or not.


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27 Oct 2014, 5:03 am

I used to express my feelings with poetry and sacrifice all I have for love but only to be destroyed its a thing of the past romance is extinct!


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27 Oct 2014, 7:04 am

Just because it's extinct in one person's life doesn't mean it's extinct everywhere.



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27 Oct 2014, 8:00 am

AspieOtaku wrote:
I used to express my feelings with poetry and sacrifice all I have for love but only to be destroyed its a thing of the past romance is extinct!


That is way over the top, goes past romantic and into creepy. Think of it from her perspective. If a girl dd the same to you wouldn't it feel excessive.


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27 Oct 2014, 9:10 am

AngelRho wrote:
CynicalWaffle wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
You can treat people nicely without being chivalrous, you know.


Yeah, and people will ALWAYS find a way to twist it into sexism.

Two things:

1. Don't hang out with those people.
2. Tune them out.

I'm only going to try to be the most decent person I know how to be. I don't need someone screaming "sexist pig!" every time I hold a door for someone, and I'm certainly not going to let it affect me any time it does happen. Look, just concentrate on being a good person and let the haters hate.


It hasn't happened to you enough, then, if it hasn't affected you.

And by your logic, I should tune EVERYONE in the world out.

Being a decent person is analogous to jabbing yourself in the eye with a fork repeatedly.



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27 Oct 2014, 11:26 am

aspiemike wrote:
What I have observed- if they aren't into romance around me, they aren't into me. If they aren't interested in intimacy around me, they sure aren't interested in me either. And what a person is into will indicate dealbreakers and common interests and whether we will have a shot or not.


very good observation! i will try to remember that!


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i would never blame a guy for opening a door for me!

3.
poetry is not extreme, each of us express romance in a different way,
tying someone up and calling it romance, that is NONO

4 romance is not extinct, just like someone else here said, it may be extinct in someone's world but it doesn't mean it's extinct everywhere

just my personal opinion ^_^


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